bede86 Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 A few months ago I met this Woman, shes great, she really helped me after I had just come out of a Very Messy Relationship with someone and I could not have done it with out her...about a month after we met I started to develop feelings for her. But theres a problem, shes 7 years older than me and shes my psychologist!!! I know this is crazy, Shes a 28 year old professional woman and I'm a 21 year old university student, now I'm positive she doesn't feel this way but even if she did probably wouldn't act on it since her career would be at stake. I'm guessing this is just a side affect of therapy, she's the only person who listened to my problems, because nobody else would. Now I can't say anything because she'd probably refer me and she already knows my story so I don't want to have to go through all the crap with someone new....anything I can do to like stop feeling this way lol if that makes sense??
Bree Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 you need to tell her the thoughts going through your head maybe she can help explain why your feeling that way.
Author bede86 Posted June 15, 2007 Author Posted June 15, 2007 Believe me when I say I want to, but she might just refer me to someone else, and that'd be so hard, since talking to her is the best thing ive ever done. On the other hand, I have a feeling she knows how I feel, I sought of hinted towards it once or twice, so I think she may, if so why hasn't she brought it up.
Bree Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 She hasn't brought it up because she is being a professional.
Touche Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 You only have two choices here. Bring it up and risk losing her as a therapist or stay with her as your therapist but risk losing her as a potential girlfriend. You can't really have both.
Sand&Water Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 RE: I only see one option for you, Bede86. Question: What good will come out of this? Nothing. My Advice: Don't say a word to her about how you feel. Think about it. Having a relationship with a psychologist will be disproportionate, and draining. This Teacher-Student relation will not work -rather you would find out, if you were to embark on such a journey, that her persona is very much unlike yours. Save yourself the heart ache. Find another psychologist. IF you continue with her, your feelings will build up to the point of explosion. That, can, be lethal. Sand&Water
Touche Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 Good points, S&W. Also, I just wanted to add that I don't think too many 28 year old women care to have a relationship with a 21 year old. You yourself even said you're at totally different stages in life. You risk probable rejection, I'd say if you pursue this.
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