Miranlin Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 Hi everyone there, I don't know how to say this, I think I am already in love with this person, who is about in his 60s. I don't really mind his age, but I just felt strange that every time I saw him, because I would feel some kind of connection between us. I could call it as "chemistry", but I am not sure. Every time I left his house, I would feel so upset because I miss him. We haven't dated yet, he called me a few times to ask about computer problems. And basically, we get to see each other a few times a month. We are friendly with each other... Physically, he is shorter than I am. Will he mind that? How can I make the next move? I felt being taken care of well while I was there. He likes to stare at me while talking to me... all these signs are meant to be polite or affectionate? I don't know, I am so confused, and I think of him a lot... He is a very mature man with a successful career. I think maybe it is the reason that I fell in love with him. Help me with your opinions if you can. Thanks.
norajane Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 Without more information, the first thoughts that come to mind: - how old are you? how much older is he? - is he married?? stay away if he is, far away. - are you looking for a father figure? how's your relationship with your dad? - some relationships with large age gaps can and do work, but you're setting yourself up for loneliness if you do end up together. fact is, men die younger than women, and if you're a lot younger than he is... - some young women do end up falling for older men because of their success and confidence. and men like younger women because they are, um, physically appealing to them. they do not, however, have much in common, so the relationship is not destined for 'forever'.
Author Miranlin Posted June 13, 2007 Author Posted June 13, 2007 The age gap is like 28, 30,...he is not married, but he is very successful in his career. If I can stay with him for 20 years more, he will be 80 then, and I will be 50, then we would have good time together already. Why would I worry about twenty years later... Nothing lasts forever anyway. Life is fragile. The good thing you mentioned is that if men die younger than women, um...I have to be a widow for the rest of my life... Well, nothing is perfect, I think the point has to be the love. Love should go beyond everything even though it is risky and crazy... One thing I feel awkward is that I am much taller than him... I guess we can not hug or kiss... What is your opinion about that? Thanks!
Author Miranlin Posted June 13, 2007 Author Posted June 13, 2007 :pThe age gap is like 28, 30,...he is not married, but he is very successful in his career. If I can stay with him for 20 years more, he will be 80 then, and I will be 50, then we would have good time together already. Why would I worry about twenty years later... Nothing lasts forever anyway. Life is fragile. The good thing you mentioned is that if men die younger than women, um...I have to be a widow for the rest of my life... Well, nothing is perfect, I think the point has to be the love. Love should go beyond everything even though it is risky and crazy... One thing I feel awkward is that I am much taller than him... I guess we can not hug or kiss... What is your opinion about that? Thanks!
electric_sheep Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 I'm 37 and my girlfriend is 22, and even I find this a little bizarre. But hey, I'm not one to judge. If you kids are having a good time and are happy together then I don't see what the problem is. You are a 30 year old woman after all, fully capable of deciding for yourself, and I assume you have thought of all the "quirks" of dating an older man. Such as... he may require viagra. Did you ever see that movie "Harold and Maude"? You should rent it.
norajane Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 Love should go beyond everything One thing I feel awkward is that I am much taller than him... I guess we can not hug or kiss... What is your opinion about that? Thanks! If love should go beyond everything, and you aren't concerned you may have little in common with a 30 year age gap, then why worry about height??? If a man is taller, a couple is able to hug and kiss, so why wouldn't you be able to do that if the woman is taller? I'm not sure I understand your reasoning there.
Topper Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 Age height why should that matter? If you feel a bond with this guy let him know. He just might be holding back thinking why would this tall beautiful young woman want to be with me? Dont let other tell you who you should or why you should love someone. I have dated woman that were taller then me. I have also dated woman that were much younger then me. I have a very healthy male ego. I absolutely loved being with a tall very beautiful woman. Her female ego was also healthy she didn't need a taller male to make her feel comfortable. I like the people that I like. I was seeing someone who was 28 I am mid fifties. We had a lot in common and always had a great time together. She broke things off because unlike you she did not want to be a young widow. It was kind of understandable since her late boyfriend / fiance died young from cancer. Go for it
Lizzie60 Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 You're not 16...you're old enough to know what you want...and like you said, nothing is permanent.. so enjoy... He still has a few 'good years' ahead...plus he's successful, is probably well-off financially...and single... and inoculated... geez ...go for it... If not... let me know his number...I'll go for it myself... LOL
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