buzzie2 Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 There is this guy from my workplace who had been showing signs of interest in me since before Xmas. I know he liked me because I always caught him staring at me, he would smile when I entered the room, and he used to make up any excuse at all to talk to me and even sometimes rub my shoulder. I was always polite and proffessional but nothing more because I didn't think two coworkers should get involved. Well anyways I guess I liked the attention and he sort of grew on me. So one day I started being very flirtatious with him. Well he was pleasantly shocked, and got this really happy look on his face that I was showing and interest. Also his eyes had this sad, sort of lovesick look in them. Anyways for a while after he could barely look at me and one time he started stuttering. That was about a month ago. Now he barely talks to me, I never catch him staring at me anymore, and he is flirting with other girls! So my question is, what happened?
jcster Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 I think he was more into the unrequited love than the real thing. Sometimes guys are more into the chase than the catch - and he got scared and ran away. Trust me, it's better this way.
aklay Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 There is this guy from my workplace who had been showing signs of interest in me since before Xmas. I know he liked me because I always caught him staring at me, he would smile when I entered the room, and he used to make up any excuse at all to talk to me and even sometimes rub my shoulder. I was always polite and proffessional but nothing more because I didn't think two coworkers should get involved. Well anyways I guess I liked the attention and he sort of grew on me. So one day I started being very flirtatious with him. Well he was pleasantly shocked, and got this really happy look on his face that I was showing and interest. Also his eyes had this sad, sort of lovesick look in them. Anyways for a while after he could barely look at me and one time he started stuttering. That was about a month ago. Now he barely talks to me, I never catch him staring at me anymore, and he is flirting with other girls! So my question is, what happened? This type of thing has happened to me before. A guy shows interest, you show it back - he ditches. I try and put myself in a guy's shoes. Maybe when you showed a sign of interest he started thinking about the possibility of you two dating, and then something he hadnt thought about before, struck his mind. Maybe he's interested in another co-worker...Maybe something you did turned him off... guys are so hard to understand sometimes...
Apple Blossom Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 I have to say I agree with jcster. It sounds like this guy is more into the 'thrill of the chase' as it were. I suppose it is possible that this guy is flirting with other girls to make you jealous, and seeing how you react - do you like him, or do you just like flirting with him? But I doubt it. As annoying as it may be, i'd just walk away! Like you've said, you're co-workers, and to embark on a relationship would be 'interesting', so to speak. It sounds as though this guy was definately interested, but whatever reasons he has for being more distance, namely just enjoys the chase and light flirting, or is trying to make you jelous, I would just let it be, and not get involved. Game playing in relationships is silly, and as you are co-workers, you should not go into a relationship without being certain - in this case? Nope, I'd steer clear! lol! You can find someone much nicer who won't string you along!
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 So my question is, what happened? Sounds like he lost interest and moved on to other people.
Topper Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 Let me give you another point of view. He might be very shy. The flirting is a cover for his very real and deep shyness. Once you responded to him, he was light a deer caught in the headlights. Your flirting might have scared the crap out of him! You said he stuttered when he talked to you? That said to me he just doe not know what to do once someone he likes show interest back. Try this. Ask to meet him outside of work. For coffee or a drink. Maybe just a brown bag lunch. Let him know your confused and would like to know whats up? You might be pleasantly surprised
polywog Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 Is it possible he's not single? How muh do you know about him? Maybe he has an SO but was just really attracted to you, had a crush, and when you showed interest he knew he couldn't reciprocate. Just another theory.
Trialbyfire Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 Strange behaviour. Maybe he needed it to come to fruition at his pace. A timid guy isn't what you really want, is it?
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