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Ok, I don't want to spend a considerable amount of time typing this up, but basically I have lived at home while I finished school - I finished in December, had a 4 month internship in Denver from Jan-April, which I commuted to 2-3 days/week staying w/a friend while I was up there, and now that I'm done, I want to move out of my hometown to the Bay Area, where I've been seeking employment. My dad is supportive about saying that he will support me in my decision, but my mom is literally like, "You think you're going to move out there, but it's too expensive and you don't have enough experience on your own." She's even gone as far as to tell me straight-up that I can't make it, and my desire is BS.

 

It's so hurtful. I feel alone about it, but I'm ready to go, and I love that area. Should I go anyway? Basically, I think I'm just looking for some support and encouragement. Of course, I'm looking for a job before I go, that's one of my main goals anyway since I got my degree, but it's a huge change, and although I'm ready to do it alone, I need moral support, and wish my parents could both be there for that. Any input would be appreciated.

 

Thanks for taking time to read this! :bunny:

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Hi Hipnawtic,

In my opinion, I think you should go with your heart. The reason your mother is against the idea is that she misses you and afraid that you will suffer without her care. The best way to ease her fear is to get a full-time job first to prove that you can support yourself. After you move out, you invite your family, especially your mother, often to your new place. Then she will not miss you so much.

 

Remember, you are adult now.

 

Take care.

Mymatchmaker.

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