Author McFadden Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Electric_sheep, thank you for putting all of that out there. What you said pretty much sums up my opinions on these kinds of situations. Its ridiculous how arbitrary the laws are, something could be legal in one area and then as soon as you cross a border it becomes illegal (and magically "immoral" at the same time.) I want to clear some things up as some of my statements were tactless ("I'd like to get my hands on one of those," "I fantasize about running people over.") I have a very dry way of communicating and it doesn't come across well here. Anyway I am not a pedophile, nor am I usually a hebophile as far as I know. I am just confused. This individual is close to 15, definitely is post puberty and looks and acts older. The idea of me being an adult and him being a child only exists in legalities to me, since we are both post pubescent. If someone saw me and him together they would probably think its two people the same age. He is also not innocent or being manipulated in the situation, he has tried to game me. He goes to a Catholic military school and wears a school boy uniform and he goes around saying things like "I'm a little slut." He would probably brag about hooking up with an older woman. So its hard for me to think of this situation as me "preying on" him. There are fragile and innocent 14 year olds, who would be caused trauma by that kind of thing and I don't see him as one of them. A few things I don't understand here: how is bringing up the fact that I'm not over an ex relevant to this question? That's a normal situation which is fueled by ongoing contact from my ex, who is the same age as I am, so I don't see the tie-in. Also, why is that after I agreed that I would wait until this kid was over the legal age, I was then told that was sick. If I had relations with someone of a younger age than me, but of legal age, how would that be viewed as inappropriate by anyone? If I wanted to I could sit here and count the days off on my Boy Scouts of America Calendar until this kid is of legal age, and no one could have any legal grounds to complain. (That was an exaggeration to make a point.)
Tony T Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 If I were you, I would consult an attorney regarding the legal risks before going out with a minor child. Maybe not this time...but these kinds of things could be a set-up. Just pray that Dateline NBC doesn't follow the two of you around and roll tape when he makes a pass at you...hahaha!
Trialbyfire Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Many young men are incredibly brash. It doesn't prove that he has the emotional maturity to handle a physical situation with a nineteen year-old. I'm 32. There's a boy down the street who's 15, who is crushing on me and would love to get into my pants. When I walk by the local Highschool, I get hassled by the boys. Does this mean I should bang them one and all because they're brash? Don't justify something that's illegal. Get yourself rewired.
Author McFadden Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Many young men are incredibly brash. It doesn't prove that he has the emotional maturity to handle a physical situation with a nineteen year-old. I'm 32. There's a boy down the street who's 15, who is crushing on me and would love to get into my pants. When I walk by the local Highschool, I get hassled by the boys. Does this mean I should bang them one and all because they're brash? Don't justify something that's illegal. Get yourself rewired. No but I think there is a difference between a 32 year old and an underaged person and a late teen with an underaged person. Its still inappropriate, but less so. As far as I know he has already been sexually active with people his age and a 17 year old, so I don't see how another year older makes it a lot worse just because of some arbitrary law. Besides, can someone point out why it was again called sick after I said I would wait until he is over the legal age?
Author McFadden Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 And I still don't understand insinuations that law enforcement should track me down. On what grounds? I have chatted with a kid about non sexual things. He has brought up sexual things and I have turned them down and explained it is illegal. So far I am like, the model citizen. After the police track me down they can give me an award.
Trialbyfire Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 No but I think there is a difference between a 32 year old and an underaged person and a late teen with an underaged person. Its still inappropriate, but less so. As far as I know he has already been sexually active with people his age and a 17 year old, so I don't see how another year older makes it a lot worse just because of some arbitrary law. Besides, can someone point out why it was again called sick after I said I would wait until he is over the legal age? Ah, so you say age matters then? There is a substantial difference between a fourteen year-old and a nineteen year-old. You might as well call it two decades, unless the nineteen year-old is emotionally immature.
burning 4 revenge Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Ah, so you say age matters then? There is a substantial difference between a fourteen year-old and a nineteen year-old. You might as well call it two decades, unless the nineteen year-old is emotionally immature. I don't agree. I think there is a bigger difference between us and someone who is nineteen, then someone who is nineteen and someone who is fourteen. I was a lot more like myself at nineteen at fourteen than I am like what I was like at nineteen now (if that makes sense). Huge difference.
Trialbyfire Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I don't agree. I think there is a bigger difference between us and someone who is nineteen, then someone who is nineteen and someone who is fourteen. I was a lot more like myself at nineteen at fourteen than I am like what I was like at nineteen now (if that makes sense). Huge difference. Men and women mature at different rates.
Author McFadden Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Why would the emotional maturity of the adult matter? I have the maturity of a 12 year old, but I don't think that changes the impact of the situation on him.
Trialbyfire Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Why would the emotional maturity of the adult matter? I have the maturity of a 12 year old, but I don't think that changes the impact of the situation on him. One more time. There are healthy impulses and unhealthy appetites. Time to reroute to the healthy. Stay away from this boy. He's not yet a man.
Author McFadden Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Men and women mature at different rates. Just to clarify are you saying a 19 year old woman is more mature than a 19 year old man? I don't think I find that to be the case with anyone I know. Some 19 year olds act like adults and some act like children. I think maybe younger behavior in males is more encouraged or accepted so they tend to keep acting younger.
electric_sheep Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Hey McFadden, I know what would solve this whole thing... why don't you and me hook up?
Author McFadden Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Hey McFadden, I know what would solve this whole thing... why don't you and me hook up? Will you wear a boy scout uniform? That might get me over this whole fetish.
electric_sheep Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I'll definitely wear a boy scout uniform, and I'll even let you spank me for being a bad little boy.
burning 4 revenge Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Will you wear a boy scout uniform? That might get me over this whole fetish.wo...so this is a fetish? well that certainly puts things in a different persepctive. i think you should talk more about this fetish then before you get into trouble. it won't end with just one kid if its a fetish
Author McFadden Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 wo...so this is a fetish? well that certainly puts things in a different persepctive. i think you should talk more about this fetish then before you get into trouble. it won't end with just one kid if its a fetish Nooo. The whole thing about hooking up with electric sheep wearing a boy scout uniform was just a joke.
burning 4 revenge Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 That may be so, but you did say this... I don't know, I've been having some sick thoughts go through my head like I'm not getting any younger and this may be the last time I can get my hands on one of these.
Author McFadden Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Believe it or not, now this kid offered to set me up with some of his friends..or should I say offered some of his friends to set them up with me. Apparently he told them he is seeing an older woman who is into younger men and he gave one of the kids my myspace. Now another one is trying to pull the moves on me, and he's a real fragile and inexperienced one. I can't even believe this! Of course I told these kids No Way but talk about temptation being almost unbearable. I was sweating like a preist at a little league game.
burning 4 revenge Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 so what is that you prefer about fourteen year olds to twenty year olds?
Green Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Personaly I find this hole situation hot. I remember my romantic fling with a really hot 19 year old cheerleader who went to another high school when I was a freshmen. Now I agree some pretty bad things could happen like you could get pregnant with a 14 year olds baby, or spread some disease or mentaly harm them. I dont know what you should do. I can tell you that when I was faced with the exact same scenario the fear of the law and the shame of doing something like that stoped me. I dont know what you should do, but the 14 year old boy in me wants you. Its a very seriouse question your asking yourself, and the reason your young don juan may have passed u along to an even less experienced friend may have been because he was scared who knows.
Author McFadden Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Yeah I can't even believe this whole situation, am I being tested or something? Now I have several 13-15 year olds after me just because this kid decided to brag to his friends I like younger men (even though I hadn't told him that.) So far I have replied to a couple of them and politely turned them down and told them it would be illegal for me to see them, and I told the boy he shouldn't have tried to set me up with them. But they still keep bothering me, since I haven't blocked them. As far as what I like about them over a 20 year old? Its not really that I like them more. Its just that in this situation they all seem very horny, obedient and are impressed that an older woman is giving them any attention at all so they are like hanging on my every word. One of them told me he feels like he has to obey anything I say because I'm older than him. So I think its that aspect of having control over a few people, I have to admit I've fantasized about getting them to steal a van with me and make for the hills, then start like a boy farm. These boys could go into surrounding villages and recruit more boys for me. Don't worry, I'm not really going to. I have already told them I'm not going to do anything with any of them.
Touche Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 A boy farm? What the hell are you smoking? I'm beginning to really wonder about the legitimacy of this thread. I think a 14-year old boy is playing us. Cute.
Trialbyfire Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Someone is definitely enjoying the attention...
Reckless Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Time was when a 6th former (don't know the equivalent in US-speak) wouldn't so much at spit at a 1st year now with the internet all the established walls are breaking down and we have a 19 year old recieving poetry from a 14 year old without being shot down in front of god an all. Oh for the good old days when 14 yo had the decency to masterbate and fantasize in the privacy of their own bedrooms. I also blame the hormones in the cattle. Kids a maturing faster, girls are getting their period at 8 and dressing like Britney Spears' slutty little sister. Boys of 7 are running for President. (I made that last bit up) I blame Loveshack. Dunno why.. I just do. McFadden you have said some worrying things and then complained of mass hysteria when people reacted. You are in a considering meeting a 14 year old and calling it a 'date'.You have lost control of the muscles in your tongue that would enable you to say "no way go find someone your own age to play with kid".You seem incapable of turning down someone down for fear they will roll over an die with the shock of it.You believe most people fantasize of sex with minors.You have effectively fueled the fire of this kids libido by telling him W-day (whoopy day) is a mere year and seven months away.You do not read newspapers of what happens when (innocent) people get mixed up in stories of relationships with minors. Most worrying of all, I have the sneaking suspicion you think he's more than a little hot in his Catholic boy uniform and if people weren't being such goddam stuck in the muds you'd come out and say you kinda like him (... that way) But that might be just me reading between the lines and getting it wrong... He is telling his friends? Hell girl, he's 14: He's probably set up a webpage, written a, put a How-to-snag-an-older-woman instructional video (Currently available on YouTube) and made a locker room announcement as we speak. All reletively harmless in the days before internet now? well, ... at the very worst you might get your 15-minutes. Those orange jump suits play hell with a girls complextion though so take some blusher for the head shot okay? Respect! Reckless
Trialbyfire Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 It's the same trick as writing someone's name and number on the school bathroom wall, except now, it will be your myspace address or IM s/n.
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