Lucky555 Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Last year i started working, and discovered this great guy and also my brothers best friend. So, we talked about family, future, our dreams. Everything seemed wonderful! we didnt date because he was my superior. But this was ok because i was only working for the summer at this place. Two weeks after i stopped working he started talking to me alot and then he asked me out about a two months later. (I was busy with school alot!) So i find out he had been out of a 6 year relationship with a girl. He told me he thought she was the one but it didnt work out and he wasnt going back with her. He also said that he was friends with her too. He already has been out of the relationship for a year and half. Now, he asked me out on a date a month later....I dont know but that sounded odd to me. I didnt go out on that date but did hang out with him and some friends at a club. This way i could see what was going on. We did have a great time. that week i find out from my brother that his ex was calling him! She still calls him about every week! And he was also telling my brother about other girls! wow that really but some fear in me. Things were heating up between us and here this was always lingering, then i started asking myself what if he starts dating me and then dumps me to be with her? So on time went he never asked me out but he kept asking my brother about me. I kept our conversations online very casual because I "didnt know" anymore. Now, i dont want to hurt this guy. But i dont think what he did was very fair to me. I found out he was also emailing this girl that now works with him this summer (he mentioned to my brother she is attractive to him). I have kept my heart open to new opportunities but even guys that are interested in me, i have no desire for. I really liked this guy too, now these are the facts that i have gathered, now having them should i delete him off my online list so he can never talk to me? our relationship in his terms was supposed to be "casual and see where things go" Now i cant help but wonder why my brother keeps telling me about him asking him about me. So should i just ditch this guy and be done with it even though i still like him. I tried to talk to him the other day and left an aim message "he never said anything" and he DIDN'T say "missed your message whats up" here is about me: i have not liked anyone for about a year. I just didn't find guys that seemed to "fit" me until he came along..i have guys that are interested in me and want to pursue me, but i dont want to. This guy has not been on any dates either! nor is he dating anyone. We are not close now since i made it casual since i wasnt sure, which might give him doubt but this is why i need some serious advise. yeah i know there are plenty of fish in the sea but i need to draw a line now. I can't talk to him because i think its ruined, i dont know how to fix it or if i should just cut him out, Hes got my number and email . One of my friends says to try to talk to him or tell my brother. The other friend says delete him right now! Neither of these people have boyfriends or are in any relationship. Please any advise will help me.
Italiana Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Just be cool and relax about it a little it seems like your putting way too much thought into this guy if he just got out of a 6 yr relationship he will want to play the field a little. i think you need to make him play.... meaning why should u delete him at all...but at the same time why do u need to talk to him or contact him. dont make yourself too available to him... he will get bored and feel like he's "got u" your a hot chick... why should u be bugging out over him. He will totally freak if u try to push him into ay kind of rel. at all. u should go out with other guys .. why not.. let them take u out to dinner... u may find a good friend in some of them. And most likely the reason this guy appeals to u above all the other ones is cause he's not persuing u like the other ones are...think about it.. u like a challenge just like him... just lay back ..do u... and if theres chemistry there it will happen good luck ~
Author Lucky555 Posted June 13, 2007 Author Posted June 13, 2007 Taking your advise THANKS SO MUCH! it gave me more direction and it makes me see that i should just relax and see what develops.
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