passionpeach Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Most people tend to find it hard to be the first to say "I'm Out" even though they know that the relationship is not working anymore. Eventually, the relationship turns out to be a nightmare that is full of grief and remorse. I guess the question remains -- Who needs to initiate the break up... When and How? Let me hear what you guys have to say.
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 YOU should, otherwise you could be waiting around forever, living your life as a "nightmare that is full of grief and remorse" waiting for your partner to end it. If you're not happy about something, you need to speak up and/or change your circumstances.
Trialbyfire Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Are you certain you've both tried all avenues of fixing your problems? The only way to do that is to speak up, as SG mentions. Communicate your issues and then put effort into a lifestyle adjustment. Too many times, people give up far too easily over issues that aren't really deal-breakers, just stubborn pride.
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Too many times, people give up far too easily over issues that aren't really deal-breakers, just stubborn pride. This is true. I guess I just assumed they had tried, and tried, and nothing was improving.
Trialbyfire Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 This is true. I guess I just assumed they had tried, and tried, and nothing was improving. You're probably right with your assumption but sometimes, people in relationships blow up the smallest problems into the unresolvable because they waste so much time finger pointing and cycling with the blame-game.
madgun68 Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 If either partner has the feeling that the relationship can't be saved and they want out of it, then they should bring it up. When and how? When is subjective. There really isn't a "good" time to start the talk. Do it in person and be kind.
Lizzie60 Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Most people tend to find it hard to be the first to say "I'm Out" even though they know that the relationship is not working anymore. Eventually, the relationship turns out to be a nightmare that is full of grief and remorse. I guess the question remains -- Who needs to initiate the break up... When and How? Let me hear what you guys have to say. Both times... otherwise I would still be with ex #1... eeeewwww, he would have never ever left me. When and How? When I had enough and I knew for sure that it wasn't going to get better. I don't believe in counselling (money and time consuming), like lawyers, they only want your $$$, then it could work out for a little while but when it's broken, no one can fix it... you need to get out.
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