DatingQuestions Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Hello, my bf and I met online last October. Through emails and phone calls we got to know each other and got serious. Due to financial burdens and long distance, we've only saw each other three times since then, and we were broken up for a month in Jan, right after our second visit. However, during the rest of this time, we talk for hours on the phone every single day. Right from the beginning, he told me that he used to do drugs and went through detox for heroin about two years ago, and by the time he met me he was clean. Recently, he admitted to me that he used it again in Jan, during the time we were broken off. He used it twice during that relapse. He claims that he did it because he couldn't handle the hurt of our break up. He felt that life was not worth living at the time. He felt extremely guilty since he broke a promise to himself and did it again. He is also a smoker, and during the third (last) visit, he threw away a pack of cigarette in front of me and said that he was done with it. He was real quiet about his "quitting" experience since then and I often doubt if he really quit. I asked him again today and he became defensive saying that I am being ridiculous. I find myself having a hard time trusting this man since he kept the relapse from me and everyone else in his family for such a long time, and that I just can't believe that he has quit smoking so easily! Is this MY problem? I am 29 and he is 24. He is a passionate young man that generally has a good heart. He has an "old soul" and is a complete hopeless romantic! He wants us to get married, but I am unsure. Trust is a big issue in this relationship, and I know it could tear us apart in the end. He scheduled a vacation with me this coming Tuesday, but I am afraid to go. For the first time, I am afraid of flying, and I feel that my instinct is telling me not to go! Please give me some advice if possible! I'm torn about where to go with this relationship. Thank you for reading.
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