Kamille Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 It's not how you dress. I have friends who wear nothing but Guess, friends who are librarian type and they are in LDR. I think the problem is that you try too hard. You want a relationship too much. Yup. Stop trying to figure out what you could change about yourself. Instead, accept who you are how you are - glorify in it. You have nothing to prove and no one to impress.
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 It's not how you dress. I have friends who wear nothing but Guess, friends who are librarian type and they are in LDR. I think the problem is that you try too hard. You want a relationship too much. I didn't mean to imply there was a problem per se with Guess, or Bebe, or ArdenB. I shop there on occasion as well, but don't wear the stuff on a daily basis. But typically speaking, girls that shop there exclusively are allllll about outward appearances, and they DO try too hard. Combining that effort to impress with the very body-conscious styling of their clothing, you can see how it might give guys the impression that you're not serious. This obviously should not be the case, but unfortunately that's often the way it is. In order to pick the right guy, you have to be attracting the right guys to begin with. Keep in mind that with the last guy, while tipsy and in a tiny halter dress, CC told him and his friend/cousin at the same time that she liked both of them. Not exactly the type of impression you want to give the guy you'd like to get serious with.
Kamille Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 I didn't mean to imply there was a problem per se with Guess, or Bebe, or ArdenB. I shop there on occasion as well, but don't wear the stuff on a daily basis. But typically speaking, girls that shop there exclusively are allllll about outward appearances, and they DO try too hard. Combining that effort to impress with the very body-conscious styling of their clothing, you can see how it might give guys the impression that you're not serious. This obviously should not be the case, but unfortunately that's often the way it is. In order to pick the right guy, you have to be attracting the right guys to begin with. Keep in mind that with the last guy, while tipsy and in a tiny halter dress, CC told him and his friend/cousin at the same time that she liked both of them. Not exactly the type of impression you want to give the guy you'd like to get serious with. I agree SG. Yes in order to attract the right guy you have to be attracting the right guys to begin with. And I remember that comment. But see, I think comments like that are part of CC trying too hard to be funloving, thrilling, sexy, interesting to seduce the guy. CC, next time you are out with a guy you like, allow for some down time and some quiet moments in the conversation. Sit back sometimes and let the guy do the entertaining. Let him work to charm you. On another note: aren't Guess clothes the best?
IWalkAlone Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Just because a guy wants to have sex with you doesn't mean that's ALL he's interested in or he doesn't appreciate your other qualiities. Naturally, it's not a good idea to have sex on the first date, but if you've dating more than 4-5 times or for longer than a month, and your not showing any sexual interets in him, then he's going to think you have no sex drive or a prude and he'll look elswhere. Quallity men want a blanaced package: intellectual conversation, emotional maturity, AND hot sex. If you don't offer all three, a quality man will move on.
Mustang Sally Posted June 12, 2007 Posted June 12, 2007 If it looks like a steak, dogs will be all over it. HA! I love it! Reminds me of those old L'Oreal commercials with Meredith Baxter Birney (Sh*t! I'm effing old!)...."Don't hate me because I'm beautiful...." But seriously. Is your demeanor such that you give the impression that you are in it for a lay? Like too much innuendo early on, or things like that? Not advising a personality change, but if you take an ad out to sell something, you shouldn't be too surprised when you get calls inquiring about what you have for sale. I'm just sayin.
Jules Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 hey chill chic ive encountered the same problem as you many a time. guys have often complimented me on my looks or whatever and yet most of em dont want to get to know the inner me. i mean ive just finished my degree in college and guys dont seem to be interested in talking about that or any of my interests its mostly dirty talk with them they want. i dont understand it either. like i dont think im throwing off wrong signals because i always make my intentions and feelings about sex perfectly clear from the beginning so maybe guys are just being extra shallow!!
doiask42much Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I agree with IWalkAlone. These are grown men, presumably, and they have things to do other than keep pursuing a woman who seems sexually disinterested. As we get older, our lives get busier and we don't have the patience we once did, especially if what we are looking for doesn't appear to be there. And of course, sex is something men are looking for. I would be suspicious, possibly offended (heh), if a guy didn't appear to want that. We're not in high school anymore; it needs to be copacetic for both parties, not just you, CC. If he's hanging around like a putz after many sexless dates, he must not have other options. You wouldn't want to be someone's only option, would you?
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