willie040 Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 interesting situation. sorry it soooo long, but please take time to read and help. met this girl on vacation and we really hit it off. we spent a lot of time together while on vacation, and have talked everyday once getting back home. been about 4 ago months now. unfortunately she lives about 2000 miles away. also, she has a boyfriend of 4 years. we really really have a deep connection and so much in common. never in my life have i fallen head over heals like this, and it was instantly. i know her and i could be really happy for a really long time. we talk pretty openingly and she says she feels the same way about me, but is obviously torn up about this. she says talking to me is making her fall out of love with her boyfriend. its also making her realize that things with her boyfriend are "good, but not great." so as a result of this, she has decided her and i shouldnt talk anymore in an effort to get some "clarity" about her feelings. its been about 10 days since she told me this, and i was real upset... i was actually suprised how much i cared. i respect her decision, and think its the right thing for her to do. its probably the only way her and i could end up together, if her feeling for the boyfriend dont come back with me completely out of the picture. i havent done anything to get in touch with her, and told her i wouldnt try. i guess important to note... her and her boyfriend had been living about 150 miles away their entire relationship up until about 3 days before she said she couldnt talk to me any longer. living in the same city (not together) as him now made it to tough to keep up i guess. she said she felt awful being sneaky and having to delete texts and things like that. not talking to her is kind of eating me up inside. i know im ok without her, not depressed or anything, but i really think we are suposed to be together. should i just give up and wait to see if she contacts me?? how long should i wait til i try to contact her?? any chance she comes back?? should i just completely forget about her?? any advice please... it was never my intention to steal her from her boyfriend...i swear. i just love talkng to her and she loved talking to me. i just wanted to get to know her, and maybe she would decide she belonged with me. i miss her a lot and would even be happy if all i could ever be with her is friends. i dont know if she could even do that without risking her boyfriend. i honestly mean i would like ot be her friend... she is amazing.
Poboy Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 lots of issues in your situation. better to let this go and move on.
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