Lucrezia Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 Hi to all, I'm glad I found a forum with such a topic, it is exactly what I need right now (well, close to, since it's not in my native language). I have a long distance relationship for 2,5 years now. Most of the time, we feel very close to each other, we are each other's best friend and we meet at every chance we have. I love him more than any other person but lately I have started to wonder if I am still "in love" or it's just caring and habit. To explain the situation further, I've always had similar thoughts for short periods of time, even from the first months. I just can't believe I have such a happy relationship and I subconsciously keep trying to find ways to ruin it for myself He's my first lasting relationship so I have no idea how you can understand whether you are still in love or not. However, this time these thoughts have lasted for 2-3 days, which has started to seriously depress me. He has started to get on my nerves more with silly reasons. I don't have the same urge to tell him sweet things as much as before and the sex wasn't that good before some days that I saw him. On the other hand, the day before yesterday that we had a little fight I felt terrible even in the thought of losing him. I was sitting, looking at the cell phone screen waiting for an sms just like a person that had just fallen in love. I can't imagine my life without him and I don't want to. He's the first thought I have in the morning and I still call him whenever I find even a little time to hear his voice. I still check msn every minute to see if he logged in. Yesterday I felt so in love with him again and kept telling him how much I loved him but today I feel like sh*t again. The thought of me not being in love with him any more terrifies and depresses me. It always did. Also, I am thinking that I had similar "crisis" before, several times, and after a while I felt as much in love with him as before. Moreover, these days are difficult for me because of other reasons, so I'm thinking that maybe this affects me and causes this "crisis" that I feel. I just want it to pass. I don't want to break up with him! Please help me! What do you think about all the above?
Onelife Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 LDR needs a lot of understanding and reassurance. Maybe it will help if you try talking to him about your feeling of insecurity. One thing for sure is once you both can help each other through these difficulties caused by distance, your RL will reach the profound level and it wil lbe rewarding.
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