neveragain2493 Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 someone please give some advice on this matter . i know it's a long story , just please follow ... _____________ somewhere in the timeline of our relationship , i developed a crush on someone in my class , evan . he was hilarious , smart , and a very rare thing : mature . i got his screenname , and for the next 5 months , we would talk for about 2-3 hours straight every single day on every single issue imaginable . we thought and acted so much alike , and with each passing day i felt my heart falling for him even more . i kept telling myself not to , because he liked another girl , but my heart said different . and my heart turned out right when the girl evan liked rejected him and stabbed him in the back . i was there for him , as a friend , giving advice and sticking up for him just like i had always done ... towards christmas , we got very close , talking every single minute of the hour , every hour of the day . i knew every single secret of his no one had known , and he knew all of mine . and after christmas , my best friend , who was also evan's , confirmed my hopes and told me that yes : the guy i had become so close to did like me . i knew it was true : catching glances and stares from him , my heart fluttering every time he came in my path . was i falling in love ? i didn't know , and i really didn't care . i just knew that for once ... i was happy . until the day evan confided in my friend that he had NEVER liked me , that he had fallen for the very girl that hurt him and stabbed him in the back . evan had only TRIED to like me . even worse , evan said that he didn't want me to know . naturally , my friend told me at the end of the day . he looked close to tears himself . i sobbed and sobbed . i could've sworn it was a breakdown . i begged God , please to let it be a dream , because i had been so happy ; i had thought this was it . i ignored evan that day ... there were so many hurtful things i wanted to scream in his face ... but i wanted to hold my tongue . the next day , i got a message , saying how sorry he was that he'd lied and how he'd lost sleep for the first time in his life over me ... and how much i meant to him . so i forgave him , vowing that we would only be friends . and yet even though i hurt so badly , a part of me still wanted him . but my head was angry , telling me "what goes around comes around , that girl will hurt him again" ... and she did . but anyways , the next week , our class went to washington DC on a trip . two girls of an older age went . and one of those girls , emelia , was all over evan . and he was falling for her , following her around ... my heart broke again , but i told myself to carry on ; everything would be okay , and they would stop talking after we got home . but i was wrong ... i soon learned emelia's reputation : she was a compulsive liar , and had been addicted to crack , heroin , and painkillers . i was astonished . my friend told evan about it , but once again , evan was in denial , only believing every single word emelia told him ... i could only roll my eyes and walk away . soon , i learned from many , many friends that evan really HAD liked me ; he had confided in them so . i smirked and laughed : it reminded me of a 5th grade episode , covering up a crush with lies . way to stand up and be a man , evan . until one day , i wake up and hear a rumor : emelia had told evan that i called her a slut and druggie . that was NOT true , but he believed her anyways ... i was angry , but i ignored it : once again , "what goes around comes around" . until the next day she told him that i called her and cussed her out . i was so angry and upset that i literally threw up ; i was shaking . i asked evan to believe me , "you've known me for 4 years , and her for only one month..." and yet he still will not believe me . it burns so badly , and now i can only sit back and sigh . i told evan it was best we didn't talk for a while . and he told me he didn't want to talk to me until "he got the truth" . so now we haven't been talking for weeks . and i wonder : if only emelia didn't go on that trip , evan wouldn't even know her name . and she tore our relationship to shreads . what should i do ? be myself and not talk to evan until he learns the hard way ? because right now that is my plan . PLEASE help me ... i know you are confused , but please try to understand : i'm stuck in this position . every word of this story is real . advice would be greatly appreciated . thank you .
madgun68 Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 Hi Never, Unfortunately, I think that your plan is the right thing to do. Evan really has to figure out on his own that his emotions are misleading him. Just leave him be and, hopefully, one day he'll realize that he missed out on something special.. you. Move on and find someone who will really appreciate you. Who knows, maybe your paths will cross again in the future. Until then, you're better off without him and the drama that follows.
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