chill chic Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 [sIZE=2]I’m back to post something else about this current guy that I’ve been interested in. And I’m slightly confused at what’s going on. Long story short, we spent everyday of memorial day weekend together, starting with Thursday on to Sunday. We had a great time together, held hands, kissed, cuddled, I spent the night over at his place, but we didn’t have sex, just heavy kissing. I met his friends, coworkers, we talked about our families even. He’d say that he thought I was smarter than him, but it was intriguing to him. He also kept asking me why I don’t have a guy. So anyway, I thought things were going well. That week that followed was a little confusing, but he’s back to his local political campaigning since there will be an election pretty soon. I asked him on that Tuesday if he wanted to see a movie with me, he told me “I wish but I have to go to a campaign dinner tonight, maybe Thursday or Friday” So I left it at that, and didn’t know for sure if I’d be seeing him that week. Then on Thursday he texted me “this week is nuts for me, sorry” probably meaning the whole week and weekend but I didn’t think of him being busy that weekend, so I asked him to my friend’s bday, he told me “I have to go to a fundraiser dinner, can’t make it tonight” so I was understanding, and I did hear about it on the news, so I knew it at least was legit. Then on that Monday I texted him “hope you had a good weekend” he texted me back about the event on Saturday. And I replied back, but didn’t mention anything about hanging out soon because I was leaving that up to him since he’s busier than I am. And that was that. BUT here is my “offense” question: He is on my myspace page and I checked his the day after memorial day weekend since we had such a great weekend, and I saw a message from a old friend of his (a girl) it read “lol sorry to hear that the girl couldn’t represent the looks of me” I saw her pics and she’s more curvier than me, I’m tall & thin, and don’t have big boobs or anything. So I immediately took offense to it, because I was OBVIOUSLY the girl that hung out with him all that weekend. Then I read this other message that he had sent to another friend of his (a girl) it read “you with the curves, come visit me” I was like what?!! So apparently he likes girls with more meat on their bones, and not as thin as I am, or meaning I don’t have big boobs or a big butt? So I wrote on my page that I HATE superficial guys, hoping that he would see it, since I was pissed off at the time. I don’t know if he saw it, but I was pretty mad just because our personalities seemed to really click and we have a lot in common, he’d compliment my looks a lot so I thought everything was good. But when I read those messages I was dumbfounded. So acting like I didn’t see the messages, I commented on one of his pictures “this pic makes me want to kiss you!” but he didn’t approve it, like it doesn’t show to other people, and I kinda did that to see what he’d do since he does have other girls as friends on his page, and I have guys of course, just like everyone does. Since he didn’t approve it, I haven’t contacted him and he hasn’t contacted me. He’s probably assuming that I’ll call him tonight since it’s Saturday, but nope not gonna do it. I asked my friend why he’d be acting like this, especially slowing down on contact with me, and she said it’s probably his way out since he seemed slightly intimidated by me, and when we’d go out, other guys would notice me and he saw it. But I don’t know what he’s thinking. So if anyone could please tell me what’s going on, I would greatly appreciate it! [/sIZE]
Author chill chic Posted June 10, 2007 Author Posted June 10, 2007 A guy who hides you, has something to hide. ya know I was thinking that in the back of my head, and disapproving my pic comment, pretty much tells the tale. why do some guys do that to me? be all about me, I assume that they aren't taken, and then I end up learning that they might already be seeing someone? so is that truely the reason why he acted all about me, interested and even more so, then acts totally different the next? it has nothing to do with me personally?
Trialbyfire Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 ya know I was thinking that in the back of my head, and disapproving my pic comment, pretty much tells the tale. why do some guys do that to me? be all about me, I assume that they aren't taken, and then I end up learning that they might already be seeing someone? so is that truely the reason why he acted all about me, interested and even more so, then acts totally different the next? it has nothing to do with me personally? Before you get any more concerned, here's one more myspace suggestion. Add a comment on his mainpage about how you had a wonderful time on Memorial Day weekend and see if he posts it for all to see. Btw, I really can't stand myspace.
Author chill chic Posted June 10, 2007 Author Posted June 10, 2007 Before you get any more concerned, here's one more myspace suggestion. Add a comment on his mainpage about how you had a wonderful time on Memorial Day weekend and see if he posts it for all to see. Btw, I really can't stand myspace. Good idea and I do agree with you about myspace, I was a late-bloomer to the whole myspace craze, just joined about 3 months ago, and yet it's good to reconnect with old friends, it causes unnecessary drama which is why I didn't want it in the first place, but one of my friend's convinced me to join, and really, it's not all that! by the way, I'm not going to call, text or email him until and even IF he contacts me, does that sound like a good plan?
Trialbyfire Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 Good idea and I do agree with you about myspace, I was a late-bloomer to the whole myspace craze, just joined about 3 months ago, and yet it's good to reconnect with old friends, it causes unnecessary drama which is why I didn't want it in the first place, but one of my friend's convinced me to join, and really, it's not all that! by the way, I'm not going to call, text or email him until and even IF he contacts me, does that sound like a good plan? I would see how he reacts to the comment first. Try not to jump to conclusions. Sometimes guys speak and think in another language.
johan Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 I would see how he reacts to the comment first. Try not to jump to conclusions. Sometimes guys speak and think in another language. I think you mean to say women do. No big deal, just wanted to be clear.
Trialbyfire Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 I think you mean to say women do. No big deal, just wanted to be clear. I don't understand. Could you please explain?
WarriorPoet Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 Okay, since I think the rest of this post is drama, I want to be clear that I am only trying to reply to the OP's op. Don't mess around with all the myspace trash or all the other hooey. If a man wants to see you again, he will call you back or contact you even though he doesn't have much time. Believe it or not if we want it we chase it(not so hard to believe, i think). If you call him or leave a message he has a fair chance of getting, that's enough. I hate to tell ya, but he spent his memorial weekend trying to bed you and wiffed. This guy sounds like he has other girls lined up, maybe you and he do have stuff in common but, it kinda sounds like he was feeding you what he thought he needed inorder to go horiz. with you. This guy isn't looking for a respectable, intelligent, beatiful woman. He is looking for a hot gullible one. Cut your losses and find someone deserveing of your attention. In the future if you want to find out what is going on with this kind of thing. Avoid the drama, real men hate it and hate people involved in it. Confront the guy and ask him flat out the things you want to know. This action empowers you and puts the screws on jerks. Not trying to insult others adv. my posts are always my take, my adv.
Star Gazer Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 A guy who hides you, has something to hide. If you inserted a string of seven, that would be an awesome haiku, TBF. I couldn't agree more. I've recently decided that MySpace is, in fact, the devil. All online sites and forums where you can read sh*t like that is also the devil. I get curious and nosy and start poking around, and sometimes I literally want to VOMIT at what I find. I myself have the "approve" feature on my MySpace comments, but only because if I don't one of my idiot friends who's been hacked will go to town posting nonsense and such on my page. Everything else gets posted. However, if I was dating a guy - however casually or seriously, doesn't matter - and he denied/deleted one of my comments, regardless of what it said, my gut would go into overdrive. A wise man on here once said that it's easier for a guy to stick around waiting for a girl to have sex when all he's interested in is sex because he can bang any number of girls while waiting for her to be "ready." Unfortunately, your guy has player written all over him. That said, I agree with TBF. I'm usually not one to "test" anyone, but I agree with her suggestion of posting another comment on his main page and waiting to see what he does with it... BTW, CC - I tried to respond to your PM last week but your message box was full. Clear that puppy out.
sb129 Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 CC- sorry to hear about whats happened with this guy. I thought things were going great. Myspace is the devil!!!! My ex is on there, and I just don't look at his page anymore. Too many bad memories. I prefer Facebook myself.
Trialbyfire Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 If you inserted a string of seven, that would be an awesome haiku, TBF. A man who hides you is uncertain/unwilling has something to hide...
Author chill chic Posted June 10, 2007 Author Posted June 10, 2007 If you inserted a string of seven, that would be an awesome haiku, TBF. I couldn't agree more. I've recently decided that MySpace is, in fact, the devil. All online sites and forums where you can read sh*t like that is also the devil. I get curious and nosy and start poking around, and sometimes I literally want to VOMIT at what I find. I myself have the "approve" feature on my MySpace comments, but only because if I don't one of my idiot friends who's been hacked will go to town posting nonsense and such on my page. Everything else gets posted. However, if I was dating a guy - however casually or seriously, doesn't matter - and he denied/deleted one of my comments, regardless of what it said, my gut would go into overdrive. A wise man on here once said that it's easier for a guy to stick around waiting for a girl to have sex when all he's interested in is sex because he can bang any number of girls while waiting for her to be "ready." Unfortunately, your guy has player written all over him. That said, I agree with TBF. I'm usually not one to "test" anyone, but I agree with her suggestion of posting another comment on his main page and waiting to see what he does with it... BTW, CC - I tried to respond to your PM last week but your message box was full. Clear that puppy out. you're right, myspace is the devil, and lately it's been making me sick I thought it would be a fun thing and all, but I'm already over it, it's like highschool drama all over again, in a wave of immature people. I wouldn't doubt that this guy would have me on the back burner until I was "ready" huh well I never will be ready for his childish games. I thought for once that I met a really decent guy that I could click with, gentlemen like, paid for everything, genuinely nice. but somewhere in that time that we spent together, something turned for the worse, and I don't know if it was me, or he had this "plan" in his head beforehand. it was weird even, and I thought he was respecting me when I had come over to his place after a night out with my girlfriends since I was close to his place and I didn't want to drive home. so instead of trying to take advantage of me, he let me sleep in his bed, while he slept on the couch. I was embarrassed because I had alot to drink, and he was helping me, bringing me juice and everything, but I wondered for a second that he might have a girlfriend somewhere else, OR he was actually respecting me. I'm still not sure about that. I did try to test him and one of the days I was with him, I told him I was horny, just to see what his reaction was, he seemed a little nervous, made out with me, but that was it, I got out of his car because he dropped me off at mine, and said "bye baby, I'll call you so we can hang out tomorrow" well that was the day that I just wanted time for other things, since we spent ALL that time together, so we didn't contact each other that day, and that was the last time I saw him. we've texted here and there, and of course I tried messaging him on his mypace about his pic comment but that's been it. I believe he's out of town for his campaign this weekend, so I don't know. Anyway SG, thanks I did empty out my messages, so all clear
Author chill chic Posted June 10, 2007 Author Posted June 10, 2007 CC- sorry to hear about whats happened with this guy. I thought things were going great. Myspace is the devil!!!! My ex is on there, and I just don't look at his page anymore. Too many bad memories. I prefer Facebook myself. yah I thought it was going good too, but it ALWAYS ends up at a dead end, a superficial dead end
Jack'a Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Umm.. How long does it take you to be comfortable with holding hands with your date? I might be old fashioned for my age ( 21) but I see holding hand as a sign of intimacy. And I guess holding someone's hand without asking them out ( gf/bf) first is like being somewhat intimate with someone without having any kind of commitment, or least a little bit? So from my personal point of view, you were giving off the impression that you want to be intimate with someone but you don't need commitment to do so, and then when you tested your dates by telling them that you were horny, they might be thinking that something might happen, but in the end it didn't. Being a guy, I guess I can tell you this, we are actually quite aware of whether if we are being tested or not. And to be frank, some of us don't like to be tested, some people may feel that they are being toyed with. ( a little harsh, and perhaps overboard using the word "toyed with"). Perhaps you could date a few guys who are outside of the your normal targeted range? Who knows, a guy you normally wouldn't have a second look might just be the guy who wants to stick around your side for a long time to come?
Author chill chic Posted June 12, 2007 Author Posted June 12, 2007 Apparently this guy has other "interests" I didn't think it was anything big, but this girl today messaged him on his myspace "baby...you're on the tour de shore vip list" I guess they both ride their bikes? I know he does, I don't know about her. But c'mon, there must be something going on, so WHY would he treat me as if I were his gf for a few weeks, then just drop me, even when I did show sexual interest in him the last few days I was with him, and nothing happened? Did I scare him off if I said something sexual? Nah...nevermind he was saying things like that all day when I was with him. So why would he go to the trouble of taking me out, buying me everything, kissing, cuddling, etc, and now won't contact me? I haven't contacted him since monday June 4. So honestly why did he go through all that trouble then? And should I get back at him for this? Or would the best revenge be not to contact him anymore?
WarriorPoet Posted June 12, 2007 Posted June 12, 2007 Get back at him?? ...umm for what, I mean...ahh- No. I hope your better than that. get back at him?? cause he won't call you back?
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