Lizzie60 Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 I have met this guy from a phone chatline just over a year and a half now... He is filthy rich (millionnaire), he is president of a very successful health food company... he is single...and very good looking... drives very expensive cars (big brand new Mercedes and also has a 2007 Porsche)...he is presently building a mansion here in Ottawa, designer clothes, Rolex... the whole shabang.... He is a real gentleman.... very sweet. Anyway... we meet occasionally for sex... he comes at my place. When we first met, he was driving his Porsche so I thought... hummm he's got money... LOL plus he had a girlfriend... but he wasn't that into her... anyway...they broke a few months later. He tells me everytime he meets a new girl... He is a womanizer... and I know he can have all the women he wants. I haven't seen him in a while but he called this morning (quite early)... I didn't pick up the phone since I was busy painting and cleaning my basement... and I wasn't in the mood for sex... I left him a message on his cell phone. He just called me back...saying he can't wait to see me again, it's been awhile, blablabla... So I am dying to ask him, next time I see him, why on earth... when I know he can have all the women he wants, hot girls... then why he's still seeing me... (he is very 'generous' with me... kwim) Would that be weird? I'd like to have the male point of view... If it was you... what would you answer to that question? why do you 'pay' when you really don't have to... Would you be upset if a woman would ask you that? Thanks... (this is a serious question)
PandorasBox Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Just out of curiosty, has he ever said he can get hot girls or any girl he wants? Money can actually be intimidating to some people. maybe hes not as lucky with the ladies as you think or as he may portrays himself? I would think you're worthy of him to like right?
Curmudgeon Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Here's a serious response -- one man's opinion only. It seems rather elementary to me. If I wanted nothing more than a physical release with no ties, obligations, expectations or complications, I'd likely pay for it. I could cruise various sites and ads, pick out who and what I wanted in terms of looks, body types, sexual techniques and offerings, time allocation, location, dress preferences, etc., go get my jollies and have done with it/her. Seems like the perfect solution for those who want just that and nothing more. In fact, for an hour or so I could even pay for the full girlfriend experience, indulge in my little fantasy then wander back into the real world wiping my chops, smiling about the "adventure" and getting on with what's really important to me.
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 I expect he sees you and 'takes care' of you because he likes you and enjoys your company. I expect he likes your sense of self preservation and the fact that you don't 'need' him, rather you see him when you feel like seeing him. I can understand why you would want to ask, but I expect that your not asking stuff like that is part of what appeals to him.
EnigmaXOXO Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 He’s probably “paying” one way or another. When you’ve got $$$ ... it’s usually the gold diggers you attract. And they usually come with an agenda all their own: To marry Rich. Most wouldn’t take kindly to a hit-n-run, not unless he wined and dined them for an extended amount of time. I might actually cost him more money, time and work in the end to pay for his booty. With you, he’s not paying for sex, (per say) ... but rather your professional discretion and the peace of mind of knowing you’ll go away at the end of the night and not turn into Velcro Woman or demand to be introduced his friends and family as his new fiancé. My best guess is that it’s a mutually beneficial “business arrangement” and you both know the score. In that event, it might not be a good idea to ask such a personal question of him unless you already know him well enough on a personal level (rather than a professional one). It may make him skiddish if he feels there’s been a sudden change in your expectations of the arrangement. BTW... I’m not a guy nor a professional in the field. But a very good friend of mine has a sister-in-law in the “high end” of the business who isn’t shy when it comes to talking about what she does. Makes for a very interesting conversation and education!
Author Lizzie60 Posted June 10, 2007 Author Posted June 10, 2007 I think you're right... I don't think I'll ask eventhough I'd like to see what he has to say...but I will just enjoy the 'ride' so to speak. He's one of the sweetest guy I've ever met.
Enema Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 I think it's a variant of the old hooker line: "You don't pay a woman for sex... you pay her to leave" Maybe he feels like if he is very generous, you won't be upset that it's a no-strings relationship.
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