PandorasBox Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Something I have often wondered was, why are there some people who will NOT take any blame for anything or at least share the blame in something that has happened in their lives? Do they feel they are to good to admit they had a hand in something, that might not be to good? Is it denial? I know of someone who will NOT take the blame for nothing or at least share the responsibilty that she might be why something in her life is the way it is. Shes blames her husband, her kids, her brother, her mother in law etc. Its always someone else's fault, never her. I see her continue to be stuck in the same rut as always, and I really beleive its becasue part of it is, she wont accept the blame for anythng and try to change her behaviors on certain matters in her life. I guess you can't change something you're not wiliing to acknowledge. So why do you think some people never take the blame for anything?
EnigmasMuse Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Hard to say for sure why some people do this. Maybe blame was placed on them alot growing up and refuse to continue to feel they are blamed for things as adults. Or maybe they simply were not taught while growing up, that sometimes we have to take responsibilty for our actions. I do agree that until people learn to accept responsibilty for their actions and learn to take the blame sometimes, when something truly may be their fault, then it will keep them in a bad place and wont be able to really move forward in their lives.
sb129 Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 I do agree that until people learn to accept responsibilty for their actions and learn to take the blame sometimes, when something truly may be their fault, then it will keep them in a bad place and wont be able to really move forward in their lives. I used to be like that. Not quite sure why, although I think dreadful insecurity had alot to do with it in my case. I am much better now. I take alot more responsibility for my life and actions, and am much happier as a result. I think dealing with my depression and insecurity, along with growing up and learning a bit more about life is what helped me. Everyones different.
Pyro Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Something I have often wondered was, why are there some people who will NOT take any blame for anything or at least share the blame in something that has happened in their lives? Do they feel they are to good to admit they had a hand in something, that might not be to good? Is it denial? You pretty much answered it yourself. Another reason is that some people feel as though they have to constantly try and be better than everyone else and they think that admitting to a mistake will make them less of a person, and thus being not as equal to everyone else. I can't stand people who always feel that everyone is in competition with each other. Maybe they were taught this kind of behavior growing up, but as they matured into adults, I assumed that they would mature but apparently not.
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