Og fool Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 I can't believe in my 34 years that I could cry or hurt this much. I am making myself sick. I have been shot in Somalia, had wisdom teeth removed, fishing hooks in my hand, and been through lots of breakups. How can a wife leaving you hurt so bad? All of you that have been through this I commend you, people just don't understand.
azianpride143 Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 They say it is like losing a family member. I think it is worse than that. It's hard to explain. Only the ones that have been through it will understand how painful it is. You just have to cry your heart out and grieve. Once you get through it all you can move on.
dgiirl Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Nope, I never thought I could cry so much... and i NEVER thought the tears would ever go away and I'd be happy again. Two years later, they have.
ilmw Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 I can't believe in my 34 years that I could cry or hurt this much. I am making myself sick. I have been shot in Somalia, had wisdom teeth removed, fishing hooks in my hand, and been through lots of breakups. How can a wife leaving you hurt so bad? All of you that have been through this I commend you, people just don't understand. Its true.. there can be no darker or sadder place.. than at the beginning of a separation and divorce.. It is one of the loneliest times of your life. It is as if your heart has been torn out of your chest and shredded. All that you had hoped for is dashed upon the ground.. Like a jigsaw puzzle.. you now have to figure out life all over again. This is now the time to truly figure you out.. get to know you again. Get some IC.. and delve into your own issues. I was one of those people who thought I was just fine.. don't need any help... I went to IC.. and guess what?? I was wrong. Tears flow abundant.. so much you feel all dryied out. But.. it does go away in time. As with any hardship.. you get used to it. I to thought.. I was going to die. Never get through this. But I did.... It took me a while to get things sorted out... In the meantime.. I read lots of books on relationships, self help, getting into shape, etc. This along with IC.. and posting on LS was a life saver. I got my sanity back.. You will get there... have some faith in you. ilmw
Gunny376 Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Its true.. there can be no darker or sadder place.. than at the beginning of a separation and divorce.. It is one of the loneliest times of your life. It is as if your heart has been torn out of your chest and shredded. All that you had hoped for is dashed upon the ground.. Like a jigsaw puzzle.. you now have to figure out life all over again. This is now the time to truly figure you out.. get to know you again. Get some IC.. and delve into your own issues. I was one of those people who thought I was just fine.. don't need any help... I went to IC.. and guess what?? I was wrong. Tears flow abundant.. so much you feel all dryied out. But.. it does go away in time. As with any hardship.. you get used to it. I to thought.. I was going to die. Never get through this. But I did.... It took me a while to get things sorted out... In the meantime.. I read lots of books on relationships, self help, getting into shape, etc. This along with IC.. and posting on LS was a life saver. I got my sanity back.. You will get there... have some faith in you. ilmw Yep! Its true ~ work on yourself and your "inner game" This is the time to get your head and act together ~ to define yourself and your life. Who and what you are. To get your house together and then declare, "This is MY house!" This is your time to pull back and re-group and charge forth again!
passionpeach Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 I can understand where you are coming from. It must be really painful going through your this at a time when you least consider it may happen. But then again, you have to take into consideration the reasons why all these happened. And from those reasons try to decipher which caused them and find a way on how you can avoid them from happening again. You may also want to have a decent conversation with your wife and see if you can patch things up. (if that's what you want to happen; if not then at least consider proposing to be friends with her)... Parting from each other doesn't necessarily mean that you have to stay away from each other's worlds. Love goes on even if romance is not around.
El-Producto Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 Add me to the list of people who thought I was gonna die. I'm 31, and hadn't cried since I was a child. I balled my eyes out daily for the first couple of weeks. Now I've met someone who is the most amazing person in the world, and she sure makes it easier to forget about my ex. You will get there, but it takes work. Ask any of the vets around here, the people who come out of a divorce the strongest, are those that invest the time, and effort at the beginning. Don't sit around and feel sorry for yourself, look at this as an opportunity, a wake-up call. You can be happier than you've ever been, if you make the effort. Good luck.
Curmudgeon Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 I can't believe in my 34 years that I could cry or hurt this much. I am making myself sick. I have been shot in Somalia, had wisdom teeth removed, fishing hooks in my hand, and been through lots of breakups. How can a wife leaving you hurt so bad? All of you that have been through this I commend you, people just don't understand. And I was 48 and the marriage had lasted 25 years. But the good news is I got over it. You will too. I've since remarried and am happier, healthier, better off financially, more successful professionally and more content than I ever was with the ex, or ever would have been. It simply took some time. The end of a marriage is like a death in the family. You have both a grief process and a healing process to work through, and you will! Believe it!
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