Beatnik Posted February 2, 2003 Posted February 2, 2003 OK this pretty much sums up my "type" ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ -Smart (Most Important) -Funny -Attractive (Please don't assume I'm vane, my ideal of whats attractive differs greatly from my peers) -Nice -Likes a good movie -Isn't too controlling -Career ambitions (I can't stand gold-diggers) -Won't hesitate to call me -Has appreciation for good music (not like overplayed mainstream crap, that gets old fast) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Now the problem I have is that roughly 98% of the girls in my town are the exact opposite of this (except maybe the attractive aspect) Also tons of guys my age (16) like to go out with younger girls (around 14,15) I don't really agree with this, but I know I could get a younger girlfriend much easier than one my own age, even though they would most likely not fit my "type". Should I simply swallow my pride and date a younger girl just for the sake of not being alone? Or just hold out for the remaining 2 years until I can move to the nearby city, in which there are many more intelligent women?
Tony T Posted February 2, 2003 Posted February 2, 2003 At your age, you should relish the time that you are alone, are able to date around, and be free to explore the world. You have many great years ahead before you will hear the strong call to unite with a mate. Meanwhile, enjoy the company of many and take your time in discovering the one person who has a majority of the qualities you value. If I were you, having a steady girlfriend would be the last of my worries. If it happened in the normal course of business...well fine. But to set out to find that is just plain crazy given the fact you're at an age when the whole world is your oyster. Stay young as long as you can!!!
mighty bop Posted February 2, 2003 Posted February 2, 2003 Dude you're only 16 and you're setting standards already?? Just go out on dates with as many girls as you can. You are 16 man!! I wish I could be 16 again. It would all be so different...I would not be shy and I would start lifting weights all the time, which is what you should be doing.
ThisGirlNameKD Posted February 5, 2003 Posted February 5, 2003 I don't think there's anything wrong with you having standards. Nobody wants a craphead for a girlfriend or boyfriend, you know? I don't see anything wrong with what you are asking for. In fact, I think the majority of 16 years old fit your criteria. The problem is not what you want, it's how you want it. For instance, is your idea of someone being attractive looking like Britney Spears or a Jennifer Lopez? Then you are being picky. Is your idea of someone being into good music all the music that you feel is good? Then you are being picky. And is your idea of someone being intelligent have a 4.0 grade point average, is on the honor roll or honor society? Then you are being picky. It sounds to me like you want someone exactly like you, and that's just not going to happen at all. I'm pretty sure if you'll be just a tad more realistic and lower how you want your standard to come, you'll see that they're some great girls your age you can go out with in your area.
poppy Posted February 5, 2003 Posted February 5, 2003 As an ex sixteen year old girl I will tell you that most sixteen year old girls want an older boy. And when you are 26 you will most probably want younger girls. (There are exceptions) Strange but true. (Mostly)
HokeyReligions Posted February 5, 2003 Posted February 5, 2003 I don't think you are being picky if you know what type of girl will make you happy, but I don't know that you are being realistic. Your ideals will evolve and change without you even realizing it. You need to be flexible. Don't date younger girls if you don't want to - be free and grow as a person now. You have plenty of time. It's funny, I am exactly the opposite of my husband's original "perfect girl for me list" but when we met and talked his feelings started to change. He didn't think me all that attractive (just average) but the more we talked and got to know each other, the better looking I became to him (& he to me) because our vision was filtered by feelings. Look beyond surface things and know that we all change and grow - sometimes we grow closer together and sometimes we grow apart. At your age the world is yours - do what makes you happy and don't worry about others.
RollingBones Posted February 7, 2003 Posted February 7, 2003 My husband and I are also total opposites. He likes rap and fast cars, video games. He wears the JNCOs and the chains, all that crap. I'm the alternative girl that sits around making hemp necklaces listening to Jane's Addiction. On the surface, we both look very different. The only reason he asked me out was because he likes red heads. But we grew to look past all that stupid crap. We communicate well and complement each others differences. When I first met him I thought he was some stupid thug, but he's very intelligent and well rounded, play Chess and reads Tolkin. Have you actually dated all of these "mainstream" 16yr old girls? You may become very surprised what is under the surface. You shouldn't "swallow your pride" and date one of these girls. You should try to date one of these girls because you should be mature enough to give people a chance and appreciate that everyone is different and won't have the same tastes as you. Who knows, a smart, nice, intelligent girl with a wicked sense of humor and plans to achieve a good career may be the girl you see buying that Britney Spears Cd. Give them a chance.
yes Posted February 7, 2003 Posted February 7, 2003 hmm, everybody is telling you to just date around, as much as you can. i wonder what people would advise if you were a girl. for a guy, it's clear - you date around, see what u like in partners, screw as many of them as you can on the way, and then on you go to something more permanent (when u'r older). what about a girl? -yes
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