meleeda Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I have been living with a guys who is going through male menopause, we broke up about 4 weeks ago and have not really had much contact except out of anger on my part. Last night he came over to talk and told me that he is wanting to party and have fun before he is to old to do any of it. He has just turned 40 and up till now he has been very stable and loving, he has been faithful and dependable we discussed spending our lives together, investing and making plans for our financial future. And like over night he is none of those things, He is all over the place, scattered and partying at house parties until the wee hours of the morning getting drunk every weekend. Tells me he does not want to be in a relationship and wants to date all over and just have fun before he is too old to do it. What I am confused about is how long do men go through this and if they go through this and it last for years is their many stages of it. Should I wait for him, I love him and love the life we had together, I am so confused about this. I am going on with my life and going to continue to be the busy person I have been. Would like some stories about this success stories!! Men's point of view......
Krytellan Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 Hmm... how long do men go through the phase of being mental infants? Until about 28 or so. What you are explaining has less to do with male menopause and sounds more like someone who, somwhere along the line, forgot to grow up. I wouldn't explain this away by making it about something that he can't control. This is all him and it sounds pretty sad from what I can tell. You might want to consider yourself lucky you saw it while you could still do something.
midlife2 Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 Yes, from experience it sounds like mid-life crisis to me. I also experienced that about 9 years into my marriage ( 9 years ago or so). I had 2 small children and he was nothing but confused. Had no answer to anything...just didn't know...about anything. I stuck it out, he had an affair, going out on the weekends, lasted about, oh the first phase was about 8 months or so, phase 2 was the affair, about 4 months. If it wasn't for my children I would have been loooong gone. He did finally snap out of it about 18 months after it all first started and THERAPY. We did get back on track great for a few years but as you can see I am on this forum so I can't say it ended well....not sure how it will end this time.
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