ladyb Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I don't know if it's my teeth or my face. I get a lot of compliments from men and women that I look nice. Beautiful. HOT. I hear that almost EVERYDAY at work. I don't like hearing them too often because it makes me gringe. I'm not the vain type either. But I know people think wrong of me. My close coworkers (they're guys) think that I get hit on everyday. Actually, I don't. I rarely do! When I tell them I don't - they think I'm just being modest or lying. NOT AT ALL! I noticed a lot of men looking and staring at me. I'm friendly so I stay HI back if they say hi to me.. Maybe they like my shiny hair (I use Pantene Pro-V today, this is what I think when I see them looking at me...)! Well I'm not good with clues. I don't get hit on like people think... I get a lot of them saying HI to me or complimenting me...that's all I get. What's their problem?
DanielMadr Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I don't know if it's my teeth or my face. I get a lot of compliments from men and women that I look nice. Beautiful. HOT. I hear that almost EVERYDAY at work. I don't like hearing them too often because it makes me gringe. I'm not the vain type either. But I know people think wrong of me. My close coworkers (they're guys) think that I get hit on everyday. Actually, I don't. I rarely do! When I tell them I don't - they think I'm just being modest or lying. NOT AT ALL! I noticed a lot of men looking and staring at me. I'm friendly so I stay HI back if they say hi to me.. Maybe they like my shiny hair (I use Pantene Pro-V today, this is what I think when I see them looking at me...)! Well I'm not good with clues. I don't get hit on like people think... I get a lot of them saying HI to me or complimenting me...that's all I get. What's their problem? Do you want to get asked out more often in general or do you want someone specific to ask you out? People do look at other people quite often, when you stop seeking for approaval you stop taking notice of it. If you wouldnt be friendly how would you reply to 'Hi'? 'Die by unpleasant slow death you s.o.b.' ???? Yes guys do get intimidated by women, especially those who they find attractive. Some more, some less. try this...http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/confidence%20over.html
SadandConfusedWA Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 Simple, if you don't get asked out a lot you are not that hot. People will look at anyone. There is no such thing as being too good. P.S. Pantene is the worst shampoo ever. It contains silicones which will ruin your hair in the long run.
DanielMadr Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 Simple, if you don't get asked out a lot you are not that hot. People will look at anyone. There is no such thing as being too good. P.S. Pantene is the worst shampoo ever. It contains silicones which will ruin your hair in the long run. Ouch
Lizzie60 Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I get that too... My close coworkers (they're guys) think that I get hit on everyday. Actually, I don't. I rarely do! When I tell them I don't - they think I'm just being modest or lying. NOT AT ALL! but from people outside work... they will say: how you must get hit by your co-workers all the time... how can they work with you and not hit on you...blablabla... and they're not... some did, but not the closest to me. My last ex...was very possessive and when I was back from the shopping mall or something he would ask 'how many guys hit on you at the mall'... he would ask me every single time.. and when I would say 'none' (and that was true, I had the odd smile or stares) he would think I was lying... When we were together in a mall, he would walk behind me... just to watch if guys would hit on me... He was a bit too possessive... LOL but I know what you're saying.. there is not much you can do about it... people can think what they want...you have no control over that. Just try to enjoy it instead of 'cringring'
Lizzie60 Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 Simple, if you don't get asked out a lot you are not that hot. People will look at anyone. There is no such thing as being too good. P.S. Pantene is the worst shampoo ever. It contains silicones which will ruin your hair in the long run. I don't like Pantene either but I disagree, she doesn't get asked out because she is hot... men are intimidated. I sense a bit of 'jealousy' from your post... tse tse tse...
DanielMadr Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I get that too... My close coworkers (they're guys) think that I get hit on everyday. Actually, I don't. I rarely do! When I tell them I don't - they think I'm just being modest or lying. NOT AT ALL! but from people outside work... they will say: how you must get hit by your co-workers all the time... how can they work with you and not hit on you...blablabla... and they're not... some did, but not the closest to me. My last ex...was very possessive and when I was back from the shopping mall or something he would ask 'how many guys hit on you at the mall'... he would ask me every single time.. and when I would say 'none' (and that was true, I had the odd smile or stares) he would think I was lying... When we were together in a mall, he would walk behind me... just to watch if guys would hit on me... He was a bit too possessive... LOL but I know what you're saying.. there is not much you can do about it... people can think what they want...you have no control over that. Just try to enjoy it instead of 'cringring' If every guy who wants you approached you, you wouldnt be doing anything else. If no guys are approaching you at all, it is because you have massive bitch shield. Fine tuning the bitch shield is crucial. Also not wearing it on display. Better use it only for serious trouble.
Lizzie60 Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 If every guy who wants you approached you, you wouldnt be doing anything else. If no guys are approaching you at all, it is because you have massive bitch shield. Fine tuning the bitch shield is crucial. Also not wearing it on display. Better use it only for serious trouble. what you're talking about... especially the first sentence. care to clarify.
DanielMadr Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 what you're talking about... especially the first sentence. care to clarify. correction...If every guy who wants you (is interested in you) PAUSE actually approached you PAUSE you would talk to guys all day long and hence doing nothing else. Bitch shield = radiating negative non welcoming energy e.g. no smiling, no eye contact, basically cold attitude
SadandConfusedWA Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I don't like Pantene either but I disagree, she doesn't get asked out because she is hot... men are intimidated. I sense a bit of 'jealousy' from your post Lol why would I be jealous of some anynomous poster on the net who doesn't ever get asked out? Every girl that I know who is mega hot has men queing to ask them out left, right and centre. Even the bitches. I guess I found this really funny: I don't know if it's my teeth or my face. I just find the "Men don't ask me out because I'm too hot"
DanielMadr Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I just find the "Men don't ask me out because I'm too hot" It should be "Men dont ask me out so often as I expect and desire. Hence Im insecure and seem even more unapproachable." Your hot friends even the bitch ones are just bragging. How many guys on the street actually ask them out on date? Pure attention doesnt get it to the official statistics. Why? Because any decent looking girl gets lots of eyeing, smiles etc. Question for statistics: How many decent guys (with balls) asked for their number, called and called after sex?
BonneKarma Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 Of course men get intimidated too... and not just because of HOT girls, but any girl they have an interest in. That doesn't mean they won't find the courage to ask them out, but most will likely have to work through some nerves to do so. I get told that I'm hot too, but I'm not unapproachable hot... perhaps like super cute with just the right amount of sexy? I'm pretty down to earth though and don't look super high maintenance, because I'm not. I sit near a high-traffic area at work and my workmates all laugh at the number of guys that walk past and glance over at me 2-3 times trying to catch my eye and smile. Generally though the only ones that will come over and talk to me are the ones that I engage in a friendly banter at some point. A lot of guys won't approach me first, even if i can tell they're interested.
StayClose Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I believe you're not getting hit on "every day" or by "everyone." So how often are you hit on? I don't believe for a moment that any woman goes dateless for any extended time when they want to date because their hotness is just too intimidating to men. Women who are hot and put out a sexual "I'm available" vibe do get hit on frequently (maybe not every day but often at least once a week). Some men are intimidated, but plenty will try their luck. Some women do have the "bitch sheild" Daniel talks about. There's also a "prude shield." Some women who may have a nice body & facial features seem to project a non-sexual, prudish vibe that men find discouraging. Also if an attractive woman is very shy, doesn't make eye contact and doesn't converse well with men she meets, men may interpret that as an "I don't like you" message.
GodofNietzsche Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 No, men do not get intimidated. Never. We're actually not human. We don't feel emotions like women do. I guess we're just beasts. Stop reducing people (men specifically) to objects. We actually do have a subjective capacity. This may seem like a harsh reply, but what I said is essentially what your question implies. But it's cool, because pretty much everyone else does it (when it comes to members of the opposite sex). PEOPLE. Stop subcategoirzing to the extent where you can no longer recognize their essential nature as human beings. Our differences are limited to the realm of the physical.
Rowdy Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 The short answer is yes, many men are definitely intimidated by attractive women.
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