Jmina Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 Hey well, yesterday i was wearing a ring that my ex gave me and was thinking hopeful thoughts that we would be great friends again one day...at the same time, she was displaying on her msn name that "we're through!!!" .... hmmm The last time i spoke to her last week, she msgd me about some stuff we bought together and she wanted to know what to do with it all..she said "little bit sad, so many good memories, its the small things i guess" so she seemed okay and i knew that she wanted to be friends one day then i find out last night that "a few things had happened" and she was thinking she didnt know if we were going to be friends and she was very meh about it all. She is a very good blocker of emotions, and she doesnt say what she truly feels to your face... she spoke to me about her problems with her mum, she spoke to her mum about problems with me and she spoke to both of us about problems with her uncle... so to finally find out how she truly felt was shocking. she said every day was a battle with me because when she was with me she wanted out and when she was out she wanted me forever. she was very angry last night, and was saying that i wanted to play the blame game which is so far from the truth. all i wanted to know was what had i done to make her angry ...funny, i never saw her angry when we were together..... i guess its easier to get over someone you care alot about if you are angry... so now i feel that she isnt worth my pain and hurt, i still love her with all my heart but she sees me as someone im not, and i cant change that. one day when all this has settled down maybe we can still be friends, but im not going focus on it anymore, because i need to be strong and focus my life on moving forward again and i cant do that when shes controling my every thought... so i guess this is the first step to finally letting her go... thanks for listening.
KeysGirl07 Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Letting go is the easy part - actually making the decision to do so is what's so hard. Ending a relationship is not easy at all and sometimes you gotta cut the umbilical cord and say goodbye so you can move on towards a more healthier relationship. Good luck! Best thing to do is sit down and write out all the pros and the cons of being with this person. Usually the cons outweigh the pros. Just keep yourself in a position to where you don't let the other person humiliate you.
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