sao2 Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 The death spiral is what I refer to when you get into this pattern of arguing over little stuff. Then it gets to a point where neither feel like you can say anything for fear of having an argument or disagreement. Alot of the times these are arguments that could be eased by seeing each other but since there are 6000+miles between you the next time you see each other is an unknown. Any advice on how to get out of this pattern in a long distance relationship?
learning2luv Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 Isn't that the truth. While it can be challenging to remove yourself from the situation, it is imperative that you do remove yourself from these arguments. What I have found in my circumstances is addressing the issue in a non provoking manner with your special someone. Do something special for them, flowers, gifts, etc to make them forget about the hostility that is in the air. Then it becomes possible to talk to them about what is happening (not accusing them) without hurting or returning to the cycle. I would do whatever I could to remove yourself from this course of actions. It is possible, I wish you the best of luck!
Author sao2 Posted June 21, 2007 Author Posted June 21, 2007 Thanks for the suggestion. We decided to take some breather time between us. The issue had been discussed to death between us. It has gotten to the point where anything said, even innocent comments were looked at with suspicion of trying to start a fight.
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