Magenta Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 I was “involved” with this guy. We met at work and started to get friendly and for me it turned into more than just being friendly (in my own mind). We didn't physically do anything, just emailed. (He left our work and started a new job) He told me how he wanted to do all this romantic/sex stuff with me, bla bla, but he didn't love me. Anyways, its pretty much over in my mind. I just wanted to hear other people’s opinion. His wife cheated on him over the past several years. (The guy that she cheated with has moved out of state since then) He found out about it by seeing one of her emails revealing this. He confronted her, she admitted it. He says he is in no way jelous and was ok with it as long as he knows about it. He was just confused why she kept it secret from him. He says he wouldn't even mind if she found another person to have sex with, as long as he knows about it. Although in all this, he is physically dedicated to her. He said he won't physically cheat on her because she disapproves of it. Yet, he has said all this lustful, lead me on stuff to me. What do you all think about this guy?
whichwayisup Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 You know he doesn't love you, he's only in it to make himself feel good and feed his ego - So, why bother? Remember too, you're only hearing ONE side of this, the side that he wants you to know, to believe...If it's all true. Anyway, his situation makes no sense. She can see whomever she wants, and he can't because 1)he doesn't want to, and 2)she disapproves of it? That makes NO sense that she can go bang others and he can't. Something isn't right here... What is it you want from him? Because he's been pretty clear about his non-feelings for you. You're letting him lead you on, he says one thing but does another. Best thing you should do is stop flirting with him and detach yourself from his drama filled life.
Author Magenta Posted June 7, 2007 Author Posted June 7, 2007 You are totally right, I am detaching myself from this stupid situation anyway. I was just curious if anyone had even heard of anyone in a marriage situation such as him not being jelous and letting her cheat and be ok with it. Thanks!
goingforgold Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 some people do have open relationships where it's acceptable to sleep with other people as long as the SO knows about it before hand. There was a couple like that i used to work with and it worked well for them. It is strange though.
shadowofman Posted June 12, 2007 Posted June 12, 2007 That would be me if my W wanted to have sex with others. We are quite common as strange as it sounds to many of you. I think he wants a fully open relationship with his wife, but she is to possessive of him. He is willing to let her have the open end of the relationship on principle. My wife is possessive of me. I cannot be possessive of her (to me, that's immoral). I will do my best to respect her wishes that I remain her's alone (it is tough sometimes as a promiscuous man). These stories are very common.
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