Mimsicles Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 I don't know weather i am completely over reacting here, My boyfriend and I have been together 2 months, he is a chef and has gone away with his college course for 3 days, my best friend is also on the same trip. I text him the evening before he went away, which was Tuesday night, i asked him to text me when he was leaving so i could call him to say good-bye, i never recieved a text, and have not heard from him since. I text him last night(wednesday night) to ask him if he was ok...still no reply. I asked a friend of mine who pointed out that maybe his phone didnt work or his battery had died, but i tried ringing his phone and it was on, there was no answer though. As for my friend who is also away on the same trip, i called her today to ask if my boyfriend was ok, she said he was fine. I asked if he'd taken his phone with him, she said he had. It seems to me that he just doesn't want to text me. Can you please tell me if i: a) Text him and ask him what i've done wrong or b)Wait for him to come home and call him Please can i have your advice as i'm really upset, i'm finally happy and dont want to lose him.
ash519 Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 I wont lie, this doesnt sound good. Did anything happen before he left? Are you two head over heels or just comfortable...what is your relationship like? How often do you two talk...i guess i need more info.
Sobri821 Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 Seriously, I think you should just back off. If he is not responding to you you do not want to annoy him more by trying to force a responce. You do however deserve to know what is going on. Try not to jump to conclusion but accept that if he is being this much of an ******* than maybe you should just move on. It is easy said, but think of this, if he is activly ignoring you then maybe he has already moved on. Just don't call anymore. Go out and have fun with your freinds. Enjoy life, if he is making the decision to break up it's his loss.
Lizzie60 Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 don't force yourself on him... It sure looks like he's not that into you.. Be independant, don't even call him when he comes back... Let him call you. Clingy people are huge turn-offs.
Author Mimsicles Posted June 7, 2007 Author Posted June 7, 2007 We were completely fine before he went away, i spent the night at his, and told him i'd speak to him after college, i spoke to him that evening and everything was fine. We normally talk everyday, so this is why it seems so weird, maybe he just wants to concentrate on his work??? I really dont know anymore, i shouldnt be so clingly i know, but i really dont want to lose him, because we have sucha great time together and i've never felt like this before:(
Sobri821 Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 The more you try to rationalize something that you have no control over the more you will make your self crazy. You know where you stand and how you feel. Unfortunately, no amount of how you feel will make him feel a certain way. BACK OFF! Try to take your mind off of it. Take a shower, get dressed up, call some freinds. Go out. Just leave the issue alone. Don't stress yourself over a two month relationship. i am not trying to down play your feelings or his, but the reality is two months is fairly new. If he is into then he would text or call, even drop and email if he has to. If his phone was off, he would have left a msg with your BF. So take it from mem it's summer, go out have fun. When he returns do not contact him. Just continue on with life.
Lizzie60 Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 We were completely fine before he went away, i spent the night at his, and told him i'd speak to him after college, i spoke to him that evening and everything was fine. We normally talk everyday, so this is why it seems so weird, maybe he just wants to concentrate on his work??? I really dont know anymore, i shouldnt be so clingly i know, but i really dont want to lose him, because we have sucha great time together and i've never felt like this before:( who says that you will lose him if you're independant. It,s quite the opposite. If he has a good reason not to contact you, he will when he gets back.
hagi990 Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 Not a good sign, my gf did that out of the blue and then the next time I saw her (tracked her down) we then broke up. Was devastated as we hadn't had any problems at all.
Fun2BMe Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 Ask your friend to ask him why he hasn't texted you. I think that's a reasonable request and considering how he has left you hanging like this.
hagi990 Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 Ask your friend to ask him why he hasn't texted you. I think that's a reasonable request and considering how he has left you hanging like this. I second that, the guy sounds like he's being really immature and a douche
Lizzie60 Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 Ask your friend to ask him why he hasn't texted you. I think that's a reasonable request and considering how he has left you hanging like this. You do that when you're in highschool... LOL
Author Mimsicles Posted June 7, 2007 Author Posted June 7, 2007 He'll have to get in touch even if he wants to dump me, so either way i'll here from him soon and let you guys know, thanks for your help, you've made me feel a lot better about it
Author Mimsicles Posted June 10, 2007 Author Posted June 10, 2007 Well just to let you all know, he came back from his holiday and text me on thursday nite, i'd taken your advice and gone out with friends, he said he had no signal on his phone, and that he had bought me some presents. So i think its problem resolved, sorry for over reacting guys! x
Hitman10000 Posted June 12, 2007 Posted June 12, 2007 He probably made his decision that you were not a good match for her during that course of time. Oh well, his loss and yours probably too. Time to move on.
Fun2BMe Posted June 12, 2007 Posted June 12, 2007 Well just to let you all know, he came back from his holiday and text me on thursday nite, i'd taken your advice and gone out with friends, he said he had no signal on his phone, and that he had bought me some presents. So i think its problem resolved, sorry for over reacting guys! x Sorry to say this but I think the situation is not so good. He has obviously done something he is trying to get away with and you are in denial. I asked a friend of mine who pointed out that maybe his phone didnt work or his battery had died, but i tried ringing his phone and it was on, there was no answer though. If his phone was ringing, then he had signal. Unless he was at the North Pole he could've found a spot where there was a signal. How is it that your friend had signal? I text him the evening before he went away, which was Tuesday night, i asked him to text me when he was leaving so i could call him to say good-bye, i never recieved a text, and have not heard from him since. He didn't even text or call you BEFORE he left like he said he would, while he was in a signal-ok area so the excuse of no signal is baloney. And the fact that he brought you presents means he is guilt ridden and is trying to cover up his tracks by distracting you wtih the presents to make it look like everything is ok which obviously worked really good. He is thinking, wow that was easy. For all you know, he may have hooked up with your friend. Something doesn't add up but if you are ok with it and happy then I hope things are really ok.
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