goingforgold Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 Friend was going out with this guy and a friend of hers neighbour knows the man she is going out with really well. She basically knows him since he was born (they come from a small country town) and she was telling her all this stuff about him. He is a play boy and has slept with literally hundreds of women. He is even known to sneak out of work and go into the parking lot where he meets women for "fun" Here is the worst bit he actually has a girlfriend whom he lives with and has been with since he was very young. Apparently she is a multi millionaire and owns businesses and properties all over the place and he stays with her for that reason. He has been caught out cheating stacks of times and he manages to wiggle his way out of the situation everytime by telling her people are jealous of their relationship and trying to cause trouble. Something must be seriously wrong with her as she keeps taking him back and believing he is telling the truth. Her friends neighbour knows the girlfriend really well and wants to tell her about what she knows and my friend now wants to tell her as well. I think this is all so terrible and telling the girlfriend is going to get them no where. I dont know what advice to offer her or what to do to help. She has been with him for 8 months
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 Something must be seriously wrong with her as she keeps taking him back and believing he is telling the truth. I don't know that its something that is wrong with her, so much as it is a case of willful denial. I'm sure on some level she does know the truth, she just doesn't want to admit it to herself. Maybe she does know the truth, and just chooses to look the other way since he always comes back to her. Either way, she is likely addicted to him and needs him on some level, and you can't break someone's addiction by telling them that what they are doing is bad. Every crackhead knows how horrible crack is. That doesn't stop them from being addicted to it though. She has to want to end the relationship with him, and while nothing you say or do will accomplish that - perhaps giving her some rock solid proof (photos, etc) will at least help to get her thinking in that direction. That's pretty much the best you can do. You can lead a horse to water, so to speak but you can't make it drink.
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 Aha... I thought this sounded familiar, "sexyblonde". 1. Stop going to this guy's bar. Find another place to hang out. 2. Get STD testing. 3. Do not bother the wife. Doing so will accomplish nothing. 4. Leave MM alone - he made it perfectly clear that he did not want you - he has probably moved on to someone else, given his reputation. 5. Stop persuing married men - it got you nowhere before when you did it, it got her nowhere now and it will not get you anywhere in the future. Consider yourself lucky that you only wasted less than four months on this POS, and not years.
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