Gunny376 Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I've held off on commenting on this thread because of "D" answer?! "All of the above. I've been dealing with this crap most of my Marine Corps carrer. Bottom line? You're DH joined the miltary ~ YOU didn't! Now that can go one of two ways! Its up to you! Either join the military or be gone! That's not me saying you should enlist! Either your a military wife or your not! It takes a lot to be a military wife! The tougest job in the military is being a military wife! Its not for the weak minded, nor the weak hearted! Conversation between my last GF and I: Where are you going? I don't know! When will you be back? I don't know! When will you call? I don't know! When will you write? I don't know! How long will you be gone? I don't know! Haiti, Cuba, Rwanda, Somila The DR, on and on in just four years! What I see here? Do you have what it takes to be a solider's wife? And yes! Its hard! All day hard! And its going to get harder! Its tough, and it'll get harder! Go down to the local military hospital and talk to the "old ladies" of the veterans and hear their tales! I lost my wife through divorce ~ simply becase she couldn't tote the note on my being a carrer Marine! She couldn't handle the deployments! She couldn't handle the sixty ~ seventy hour weeks! She couldn't handle the "I've got to go!"
Author jennsmith1984 Posted June 8, 2007 Author Posted June 8, 2007 I've held off on commenting on this thread because of "D" answer?! "All of the above. I've been dealing with this crap most of my Marine Corps carrer. Bottom line? You're DH joined the miltary ~ YOU didn't! Now that can go one of two ways! Its up to you! Either join the military or be gone! That's not me saying you should enlist! Either your a military wife or your not! It takes a lot to be a military wife! The tougest job in the military is being a military wife! Its not for the weak minded, nor the weak hearted! Conversation between my last GF and I: Where are you going? I don't know! When will you be back? I don't know! When will you call? I don't know! When will you write? I don't know! How long will you be gone? I don't know! Haiti, Cuba, Rwanda, Somila The DR, on and on in just four years! What I see here? Do you have what it takes to be a solider's wife? And yes! Its hard! All day hard! And its going to get harder! Its tough, and it'll get harder! Go down to the local military hospital and talk to the "old ladies" of the veterans and hear their tales! I lost my wife through divorce ~ simply becase she couldn't tote the note on my being a carrer Marine! She couldn't handle the deployments! She couldn't handle the sixty ~ seventy hour weeks! She couldn't handle the "I've got to go!" Hey im trying to be a good military wife, But my husband isnt working with me, he doesnt want to since its been 2 years of this going on arguing stuff. What should I do? Im trying my best.
Darth Vader Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 I mean he told me that there wasnt anyone else that he thinks it would be best if he were to be by himself. I know nothing would be holding him back cause im sure i deserve it, and thats what im scared of is that he is looking around but i really hope not and yes i have heard the saying what comes around goes around and damned if im getting it back. Remember, him possibly looking around is only a therory, it's possible that he just wants to be alone, but, that idea just seems a little strange to me. Have you thought about letting him go?
Darth Vader Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 Hey im trying to be a good military wife, But my husband isnt working with me, he doesnt want to since its been 2 years of this going on arguing stuff. What should I do? Im trying my best. He doesn't have to "work" with you! You have to "work" with him! He doesn't "tell" the Army what to do, they "tell" him what to do, and where to go Period! He doesn't have the time to play games, he's on the move! Alright Gunny, what about what I was talking about before on my last post here? Is it accurate? Could he be looking around?
Darth Vader Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Hey.....I think you might want to watch the new TV series coming out,Military Wives...or Army Wives, or something if you have cable. Anyway, since this guy married you and then two weeks later decided he might want to go back to his ex-girlfriend, he was probably cheating on you even then, if not physically, emotionally. I mean, as far as I'm concerned, all bets were off when he told you he was 'torn' between his ex-girlfriend TWO WEEKS AFTER HE MARRIED YOU. Woggle, what are YOUR thoughts on this? Why would anyone want to be married to HIM? HUH? Sure, don't have anything to say now, do 'ya? You had every right to sleep with another guy because he basically broke up with you when he told you he was still torn between you and his exgf. So...he is MORE at fault than YOU and HE has a LOT of ground to make up, beginning with hitting the floor right now and begging forgiveness for being an a@@hole two weeks after you married him. What female Bullcrap!
Author jennsmith1984 Posted June 9, 2007 Author Posted June 9, 2007 Remember, him possibly looking around is only a therory, it's possible that he just wants to be alone, but, that idea just seems a little strange to me. Have you thought about letting him go? I have thought about it, but I love him to much. I dont want to let him go, but I guess when it comes down to it, we really are getting a divorce.
Author jennsmith1984 Posted June 9, 2007 Author Posted June 9, 2007 He doesn't have to "work" with you! You have to "work" with him! He doesn't "tell" the Army what to do, they "tell" him what to do, and where to go Period! He doesn't have the time to play games, he's on the move! Alright Gunny, what about what I was talking about before on my last post here? Is it accurate? Could he be looking around? Ok and i am working with him, he doesnt want to be with me anymore, he doesnt want to get hurt anymore, but im not going to hurt him.
Author jennsmith1984 Posted June 9, 2007 Author Posted June 9, 2007 What female Bullcrap! Hi yes the Military Wives comes on, on Sunday, and thank you for saying that i had every right to do what i did, i have been thinking this whole time it was my fault, but ever since we got married and about him not wanting to be with me or didnt know, thats where it all went down hill.
Gunny376 Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Yes, adultry is a violation of the UCMJ ~ Uniform Code Of Military Justice. I'll post more later ~ got to head out to work right now!
Darth Vader Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 Ok and i am working with him, he doesnt want to be with me anymore, he doesnt want to get hurt anymore, but im not going to hurt him. Thank You Gunny. As far as your husband not wanting to get hurt anymore, that's understandable, you may have told him that you're not going to hurt him anymore, but, he may not be able to trust you. That might be the problem.
Author jennsmith1984 Posted June 10, 2007 Author Posted June 10, 2007 Thank You Gunny. As far as your husband not wanting to get hurt anymore, that's understandable, you may have told him that you're not going to hurt him anymore, but, he may not be able to trust you. That might be the problem. Thank you, we have talked about it and im going to go to Georgia for a month and see if we can work it out. So maybe we can, maybe we cant, but hopefully we can.
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