Jmina Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 It's been a month for me... i read everyone threads and you say its been 5,6 months or a year and a half and you still find it hard....and then after a year your ex gets a partner and then you go back to how you were before..... i am in so much pain now that i cant bear the thought of so much more pain and hurt and coping to come!!!! i havent had one day where i am happy for the whole day and it feels so draining.... ive forgotten what it feels like to be happy... i have such good friends but they tend to drift off probably because they are sick of hearing me cope with the whole thing! im travelling next year and i cant wait... but im really quite unhappy with everything at the moment, i just want to get away and experience something amazing for myself... i dont know if waiting for it is making me more unhappy because i dont want to be here.. or if i would feel just as bad if i was doing things that i enjoyed... i dont know what to do with the feelings that i have for her... we will be good friends one day, i know it from my heart, i know that one day we will still share time and laughs and tears together as friends...so i have hope but im worried that i will never be able move on from the romantic feelings that i have about her! I dont know if she is lying to me when she says that im her soul mate still?? and that she doesnt want to live her life without me? i dont feel that she is lying at all, but reading some of the threads on here some people say that they are only saying that to make the break up easier on them!? i just dont believe she would say "i still believe you are my soul mate, we just arent meant to be together right now its not right for me" oh im so confused im really REALLY worried about the day that i find out she is with somebody else!! i feel that i will collapse back to what i was the day this whole nightmare started.. if anyone can help please do
funkybassplayer Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 I know how you feel, plaese read my post 'goodbye my lady' in breakups! I lost my love, her 3 kids and she has a new guy in the space of 2 weeks of our breakup 6 weeks ago now. im devestated, but im finding an inner calm in myself now, after 4 weeks. I cant do nothing about what happened, in my heart i know she cares for me still, and misses me, and she knows the pain im in i know that, so trust yourself in your own thoughts. If your cool about things the ex will respect you and you will respect yourself, so setting you up for a good future frienship. Friends can be for life remember that. what ever your ex is telling you, its over, so thats what you have to understand. If you are scared of what will happen in a year, dont be, you will have both moved on, dwelling on what was said and this and that is not good, you have to go forward, then you will see the bigger picture. right now you are coping with strong powerful emotions of hurt pain and loss,that have to come out, be upset cry whatever, but dont think about why you broke up or if your gonna get back together, its not worth it, and i bet in a few weeks, you will be hoping to be just healthy freinds. If you have to say something to your ex say it nice, then you always keep the door open, then go and sort yourself out, do whatever it takes. If you dont greave now for what happened then it will come back in weeks to come.
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