messylady Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 I just wanted to say thank you, even though I don't know anyone here , so many of you have helped me, I came upon this site in tears, after another night of confusion , hurt, bitterness.. etc etc, I was convinced I must be the only OW in the world who had been let down, taken in by years of very convincing lies, yet it seems I am not quite as unique as I thought I was lol, just reading here has helped me... it's as though I read something and think my god that's how it was for me... I have been afraid to even think of moving on just incase he comes back or incase he realises how much he misses me... hah !! it aint gonna happen is it ? The frustrating and most hurtful part for me right now is the fact everything was fine the last time we spoke, then nothing, not another word, that is almost 3 months ago.... it has my head battered from asking why? so many nights I sit with my phone wanting to phone his home just to get some sort of vent for this hurt, it's as though he ended things mid flow and never said goodbye! anyway I'll just keep reading here, suddenly I don't feel quite so alone with all this.... thank you x
Marielle Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 I just wanted to say thank you, even though I don't know anyone here , so many of you have helped me, I came upon this site in tears, after another night of confusion , hurt, bitterness.. etc etc, I was convinced I must be the only OW in the world who had been let down, taken in by years of very convincing lies, yet it seems I am not quite as unique as I thought I was lol, just reading here has helped me... it's as though I read something and think my god that's how it was for me... I have been afraid to even think of moving on just incase he comes back or incase he realises how much he misses me... hah !! it aint gonna happen is it ? The frustrating and most hurtful part for me right now is the fact everything was fine the last time we spoke, then nothing, not another word, that is almost 3 months ago.... it has my head battered from asking why? so many nights I sit with my phone wanting to phone his home just to get some sort of vent for this hurt, it's as though he ended things mid flow and never said goodbye! anyway I'll just keep reading here, suddenly I don't feel quite so alone with all this.... thank you x I feel your pain me too I send you ((((((((mess)))))))))) When you feel empty this is the right place, I found a lot of support. We are all women ow and bs wven if sometimes we argue we are all struggling and this helps healing. Keep sharing with us, we are here to support each other in different ways
torranceshipman Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 Hey Messylady, Sorry you feel so bad, but its good that guy is out of your life. Don't let him back in...he's not worth a second of your time. He's a bad person, end of story...your life can only get better from here! You'll be a stronger person for all of this, and one day you'll look back and wonder what the heck you ever saw in him. You should do some really nice things to spoil yourself, take your mind off things...and see if you can go out a lot more with some friends, have fun, chill out, and maybe run into a few very lovely unattached guys while you're at it! I also have this theory that if you treat another person like dirt...you ARE dirt. So pretty much all MM's discussed on this board would fall under that category then (-; Actually I really like that saying, I might post it as a thread (-:
Author messylady Posted June 6, 2007 Author Posted June 6, 2007 Thank you for your support, I have a feeling that although he has done this to me before ie vanished for no reason, well I just have this feeling he is not coming back this time, I know now (after having it pointed out to me ) that to do this he must be cruel, selfish, not the man I thought I loved, so why do I ache for him, I keep getting waves of sadness and longing washing over me, when I just can't believe he'd do this to me, especially with no warning whatsoever, our last conversation was about his mobile phone for gods sake! he gave me no reason to think anything was wrong !! a few months ago I asked him if he was sure he wanted to carry on seeing me, he said he could not bare to lose me, I was his life... eeek this is hard ain't it... thanks for the hugs, I really need them x
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