Rubby Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 heres my situation... not sure if this be the right place for this but here goes nonetheless... okay, heres my deal, im 16, a guy, and i havent made it past first base. and yet, most of my friends come to me for dating advice, especially when it comes to breaking up... and funny enough, most of the things i say look like they come straight from a board such as this one even though tonight is the first night ive ever been on such a board...(maybe its just a talent ive been born with... i know what to say to people who need it its like my friends consider me a psychiatrist of some sort... ive been told that im easily approachable... even by some of my guy friends will talk to me they wont even tell their parents ( not in a sexual nature, im straight, and as far as i know, most of my friends that are guys are too). but heres a frightening thought... my most recent... case i guess you could say, involved one of my best friends, id talk to him about stuff... im the only one he opens up to... but i learned he was dating a girl... when i first met this girl i kind of... felt a connection (im an empath... if this isnt the place where you guys believe in that... so be it... but ive found no other explanation as to why im able to read people before i really know them... not to mention feel what their feeling to some extent)but anyway, i felt that this newfound girl, which well call kayleigh wasnt really as happy... or seeming like it as when i first met her... a few weeks later i find out why... my best friend is cheating on her... it was a rather weird night when i found this out... he came out and told me in complete secrecy... its the only way ill talk about personal stuff, tends to make people more confortable... anyway, so i cant tell kayleigh that my friend is cheating on her... and because im empathic towards her... i cant stand to see her hurt... so... to top all this off, im leaving to the other side of the globe for 3 weeks... time goes bye... **** hits the fan, everyone finds out that hes cheating on her... but not with the same girl, its another one... god knows whats going on in his head... but the entire time id been getting closer and closer to kayleigh... to the point where she feels almost like a childhood friend. and the entire time id been almost councelling her... like, shed come to me for advice... now the entire façade has ended... she broke up with him and were close friends still (both of them) but its kind of awkward trying to explain why im allofasudden best friends with my friends ex... although im sure that will pass... so my real question is; did i do something i shouldnt have... am i doing something i shouldnt?... because sometimes i feel like i kinda took advantage of her weak state of mind. heh... and along with that came her best friend.. who also considers me a psychiatrist... now this'd be fine except its my other friends girlfriend who comes to me before her boyfriend for bothering issues... did i mention im shy as hell?
passionpeach Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 It is nice that you are able to help a lot of people whenever they are down. It is not everyday that you will find someone who can sit down and listen to you and care not to add the decent advice you are so willing to give. You do not have to be embarrassed at any point as long as what you are doing is out of a pure heart. Regarding your friend, I would say that you are doing just fine as long as you keep that in a professional and friendly manner so as not to offend either one of them.
Author Rubby Posted June 14, 2007 Author Posted June 14, 2007 well... a week later... things have changed... kayleigh is slowly getting over the crappy boyfriend... im still good friends with her... and ive accepted that even if i did like her, i wouldn't ask her out until she was completely over that... once i decided that my head pretty much accepted that and the infatuation was (and still is) gone. now were just good friends, we still talk often... practically every day for extended periods of time. so now that that issue has been resolved... another arises, much like every other time in my life... ive been in a non stop drama fest since... grade 8? (in grade 11 now) but im hoping this summer will be a break... let me explain my new problem; the two close guy friends that i had before all this... call them Dennis and Nick Dennis is the one that was dating kayleigh, nick has a girlfriend also (who is coincidentally the best friend of kayleigh... but shes not important at the moment). so dennis and nick dont know that im kinda like... councelling kayleigh so to speak... so they dont really know/ cant really explain why im getting closer to her/ her friends and further away from them... and theyre making me feel guilty... and i actually do feel guilty... although i feel like explaining the situation would just make it worse... and seeing how i only feel guilty when they're actually there. summer is coming and that means that i wont be under the direct eyesight of everyone... but ive never been the kind to take the easy way out... chances are itll still bug me as summer goes on... agh... life likes to mess around with those who mess around with life... (ps; i make all sorts of quotes like those... ive made 31 in less then 2 months... its kind of an outlet... which is good) what should i do...?
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