Outofluck Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 Why is it that when my girlfriend and I broke up nearly a year ago, I didn't think about her at all. A few months ago I found out that she was going out with this other guy (and according to her myspace page she is REALLY HAPPY) and I really have strong feelings for her? All of a sudden, I feel like she is the "one who got away." I really thought that I was over her but I guess I wasn't..part of me is glad that she moved on first but I have so many doubts now..I have to keep reminding myself that I didn't want to be with her and those instincts are usually correct..it sucks though. Hope I can get over it soon.
awayfromthesunagain Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 Well, actually its not weird. There might be 2 reasons for that.. first someone else has what you had, so u are asking urself it what you had before was not good afterall.. secondly, she is now what u cannot have.. people always try to get what they cant. The feelings that you are having might be due to the fact that you had a life with her and its hard to imagine what you have lived with her ( i presume it was love) that someone else could make her as happy or that someone else might be so happy with her .. to my opinion its just a phase .. hope it can help
Author Outofluck Posted June 6, 2007 Author Posted June 6, 2007 Precisely..she never really was a challenge for me as she was always throwing herself at me for several years. She seemed so into me and now that I hear how happy she is with the other person (who is very successful) she probably figures "what the hell was I doing with that guy." Its hard to be that person as it really takes a toll on your self esteem. I'd like to get back into dating again but feeling so poorly about myself, I'm sure it shows and I'm sure that I'm not that attractive to others at the moment. I hope the phase passes soon and I wake up one day and say "what the hell was I doing with her?" Thanks.
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