Stives Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 [COLOR=black]Ladies and guys I need your advice.....[/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman]So I met this guy 3 weeks ago, he's amazing, everything I could ever want. maybe it's too soon to make those judgments but it was instant on both side .. well at least I thought so... ummm we met 3 weeks ago, we saw each other every day and even spent nights together, I met his parents, sister, and friends and then he went away to Texas on a previously schedule trip for4 days. As soon as he got back he called me and asked me to come over which I couldn't cause I had work the next day and it was around 12 am so we saw each other the next day after I got off from work. Saw him of Friday, and I went away with him and his sister and two friends for the weekend and we came back everything seemed to be fine.. I think.... when I left his house to go home on Sunday he called and asked that I come over again but I had just got home from his house and wanted to chill at home for a bit, so he went out but when he got home at 10 later that evening he called and asked that I come over but I had to work the next morning so I just stayed at home. Anyways, I called on Monday to go over but he said he would call me and he didn't call and today is Tuesday and he hasn't called all day. K.. I know its only been a day.. and not even a whole day and maybe I’m over reacting but to go from calling me everyday to a dead stop.. I’m worried…. please help.. I haven't dated in 3 years.. what to do. He usually calls just say hi at least if anything but nothing.. I sent him a text message and said “ I hope ur doing well” and he sent one back saying “and u”, so I sent another one asking him “if he was mad with me or if I did something wrong” and he just replied “no” and nothing else..huh..[/FONT][/COLOR]
curiousnycgirl Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 You barely know this guy! In three weeks you've had a whirlwind - that's got to stop. I totally understand the appeal of it - but I've learned (the hard way) that the key in a new relationship is intermittancy. I wish I could take credit for the phrase, but it actually came from my therapist after someone took a powder on me after only a few weeks (sound familiar?). Anyway I say leave him alone - do not call, do not text, do not play his game. I can almost guarantee he will call again - may not be today, or tomorrow, but he will call. In my case it was 3 months later, with all kinds of excuses. At that point I had started a new relationship, but for a few hours (between his call and our getting together for a drink) I was convinced that I would just ditch the new guy and go back to the first. When we met up - I could not figure out what the hell the attraction had been! It was so bizarre - for a few weeks there I was either working or talking to him. I thought he hung the moon. How could he not have been all that?! Um..he wasn't! It is now three years later, I'm still with the second guy (and we are talking about getting married) and the first calls every few months to check in. I can only wish for you the same type of scenario, Just remember the word intermittancy! Don't rush in every day - start out s-l-o-w-!!! (oh and BTW wtf is up with you always going to his house? especially in the beginning he should be coming to yours!). Good luck!
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