Cris21 Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and a half years now. When we first got together we were staying with his brother and sister in law ( a friend of mine ) One day his sister in law brought home a female that i did not like because she used to go to my ex bf's house with a few other girls to talk to my ex bf's friend that was staying with him and they were always flirty with my ex. Well this female ended up staying in the same house as us for a while. She slept in the living room and my boyfriend started staying up all night in the living room with her watching television while i was in bed. The not very talkative person i was back then i never said anything. He soon got to where he did not want to spend any time at all with me. He was always joking around with her, etc... One day i walked to my moms not far away to visit and as i was walking back i saw him leaving in his truck with her in it. He saw me and pretended to not see me, when i saw him look straight at me. When he got back he said he just took her to work. Then i would ask him to go walking with me and he always said he didn't feel like it. One day not even 15 minutes after i asked him if he wanted to go walking, and he said no i went to the room and laid down on the bed alone. I then heard him outside so i looked out the window and he was leaving to go walking with her and his brother and sister in law. Did not say a word to me. By then i was fed up so i asked him when he got back why he ignored me so much and spent so much time with her and he just got mad and said he wasn't. We broke up that night. I went and stayed with my mom. A couple of days later he started driving by my moms house alot. Then his sister in law came over and said he missed me and wanted to talk to me. I went and he apologized and said he would change, so we got back together and he did change. He spent more time with me than ever and did not talk to her as much. He told me the female told him I did not like her because she messed with my ex when i was with him, in which i never knew until he told me. Not long after we moved away together to another town. 2 years afterwards my boyfriend told me one night that he had sex with her the night that we broke up. I was upset and mad at the same time. I wanted to leave, but i just couldn't. I still to this day can't believe he did that to me. I have grown to love him so deeply. The female had started dating a guy i know who used to be with my cousin not even a week after she was with my boyfriend. She ended up pregnant right after that. The females cousin is friends with my sis and my sis was at her house when the female called and was saying the guy i know took a test and was not the father. Her cousin told my sister the baby looks like my boyfriend. She supposedly also said that I was stupid because when i was in bed every night she was messing around with my boyfriend. I don't know if her baby is my boyfriends or not. He already has a son with another female that they had right before me and him got together. They split up because she was cheating on him with his best friend. He goes to his ex's home all the time to see his son. He knows i will not go to her house. Besides I know she doesn't want me there, even though she does not know me. I hate it, but I would never keep my boyfriend from being able to see his child. I have heard my boyfriend talking to his ex on the phone a while back asking if she still loved him, and it really hurt me. When i asked him about it he said he said he was just curious what she would say and that he would never go back to her after what she did. I don't know what to think. My boyfriends sister in law talks to her sometimes and she told me that the other day she said i did not want her calling my boyfriends phone and that i did not want their son to come over to our house. On the day i was told this his sister in law brought his son to our house for the first time ever since she was babysitting him. I love to have him over. My boyfriend is so happy when he is around his son. And i also don't mind her calling as long as it is about their son. My boyfriends ex also called him a while back saying i was calling their son bad names. I would never talk bad about any child. My boyfriend told her that time it was a lie because i had been out of town for 2 weeks and supposedly a little birdie in the town she is from told her, and i do not talk to anyone from that town. He never said anything to her about the other things she said he said. I am just so tired of wondering about everything. I was out of town one time and i made a new yahoo id and sent him a message on yahoo messenger saying i thought he was cute, because i saw his profile and yahoo id on another website with a pic of him. We talked for quiet a while. I sent fake pics of another female, and said i was going to a town a few miles away to visit a friend and maybe we could meet up and he agreed. After that i let him know it was me. He said he agreed but was not going to meet with her. Said he just didn't want to hurt her feelings. I said all he had to do was say he was in a relationship in which he said he was not. When i got back home i checked my computer and found that he had saved the pics of the female i sent onto my computer. He claims he was gonna show me the pics when i got home and tell me about the female wanting to meet. I don't know if I can trust him. I know he has only cheated on me once that i know of which has been years ago. How can i make myself trust him more instead of worrying all the time. I am stressing myself too much by constantly wondering and worrying.
FireandIce Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 Sorry to tell you this but you can't trust him. The guy is a liar. Too bad you didn't keep the whole thing up with the fake internet girl and had gone to meet him. I'd bet he would have shown up expecting to see his new internet "friend". How old are you? Do you really want to live the rest of your life like this? I mean you aren't married to the guy so if I were you I'd get out now. He's cheated on you in the past, probably didn't tell you the whole truth about only sleeping with her once (I highly doubt it was a one time thing) and he's obviously still looking around. Get out now.
Frances Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 Sorry to tell you this but you can't trust him. The guy is a liar. Too bad you didn't keep the whole thing up with the fake internet girl and had gone to meet him. I'd bet he would have shown up expecting to see his new internet "friend". How old are you? Do you really want to live the rest of your life like this? I mean you aren't married to the guy so if I were you I'd get out now. He's cheated on you in the past, probably didn't tell you the whole truth about only sleeping with her once (I highly doubt it was a one time thing) and he's obviously still looking around. Get out now. I agree with all of the above Put up with the sh"" and you will end up living in sh"" He is not showing love to you and he never will. Show some love for yourself and get out and make a life for yourself one day at a time. I wish you luck.
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