KaneNAbel Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 If a girl needs to reschedule, e.g. planned to meet for Tuesday but wants to meet Thursday/Friday instead and I allow it, is that doormat behavior? If not (due to a good reason), then at what point would I become a doormat if I keep allowing plans to change? Or if anyone know what the etiquette to this is, I would like to hear some ideas on how to handle a situation like this.
socialight Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 but if it becomes a habit you have to start saying no and just be prepared to not see that person for that week or whatever. If you are always available and that person calls the shots they will lose interest in you.
BonneKarma Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 I always say to trust your instincts on stuff like this. It's important not to be inflexible and also to avoid being a doormat. For me it would depend on the reason and whether or not it was a regular thing. For the first time, be flexible. After that, if there's no decent reason given I would assume it means she wants you to be available whenever she has nothing better to do. Busy couples do have to plan ahead to see eachother, and more so if there are children and babysitters involved. For me, I have my son every other week which means I'm only available for dates on the weeks my son is at his Dad's. If a guy is always planning a full week on the times he knows I'm available I would take that as a signal and move on.
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