BcBecca88 Posted June 4, 2007 Share Posted June 4, 2007 I recently started dating my sister's ex-boyfriend. They dated in highschool for about 2 years and that was 10 years ago. My new boyfriend says he is not bothered by that or the fact that he is 7 years older than I am. I do feel a little uncomfortable about it and he knows it but we don't really make it an issue. I just don't know if this would cause any problems down the line. Link to post Share on other sites
BonneKarma Posted June 4, 2007 Share Posted June 4, 2007 Generally I would say no, it's not okay. But also a strong supporter of the notion that sometimes love happens when you least expect it. Does your sister know and how does she feel about it? If you know her well and can tell she really is okay with it then it shouldn't be a problem later on. The only other questions I have are: who broke up with who when your sister was dating him? Do the two of you look alike (you and your sister, naturally)? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BcBecca88 Posted June 4, 2007 Author Share Posted June 4, 2007 I told my sister right after James and I had out first date. I wanted to make sure there was a spark first and that I wanted to see him again before I mentioned anything to her. She didn't seem to have a problem with it, she pretty much told me to go for it. In their relationship, I believe she broke up with him. If I remember correctly, she was cheating on him at the end of their relationship and that's how it ended. And lastly...No we definitely do not look like each other. Actually, we are pretty much opposites in all aspects, looks, personality, etc. I thought about that too that he might just wanna "keep it in the family" but she and I are as opposite as we can get. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted June 4, 2007 Share Posted June 4, 2007 I'm going to say I wouldn't but that's me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BcBecca88 Posted June 4, 2007 Author Share Posted June 4, 2007 I forgot to mention that my sister just got engaged to a man that she has been with living with for the last year and dating for over 3 years. Link to post Share on other sites
jcster Posted June 4, 2007 Share Posted June 4, 2007 My first thought was to say no...but if it was 10 years ago and while they were in high school I think you can make a case for it being ok. 10 years is a long time, and like you said, she's definitely moved on. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
BonneKarma Posted June 4, 2007 Share Posted June 4, 2007 BCBecca88 - I see no problems with it then. Why not? If you looked alike that could be a little creepy... and if it upset your sister that would be different. If the age difference isn't a problem for you then go for it. Do you have other reservations that made you pose this question? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BcBecca88 Posted June 4, 2007 Author Share Posted June 4, 2007 First of all, I am a huge pessimist and I guess I thought maybe the fact that James and I get along so well was only a fluke. I figured there must be a catch especially since this is a guy my sister had been attracted to at some point and she and I are nothing alike. I know I have been way overthinking this because I also wonder if I only like James because I had a minor crush on him when my sister was dating him and now I may just be trying to fufill some adolescent fantasy. Who knows... Link to post Share on other sites
BonneKarma Posted June 4, 2007 Share Posted June 4, 2007 Ah, well just relax and have fun. Don't get too serious right away and then you'll have nothing to lose. Link to post Share on other sites
che_jesse Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 My husband has 2 younger brothers, 6 and 7 years younger. When my husband was 19 or so he bought a Sentra and modified it, it was one of the first few in the country with the engine swap that he did. The swap was really successful and the car became famous locally. Its years later now, that car has long since died a horrible death but both of his brothers own the same car, same year even. The one brother has the exact same car and the other brother has the two door version. Neither one has done the same engine swap but both had spent a lot of money modifying their cars. Both claim it’s "because the car is just nice". Its important to note that Nissan Sentras were for the most part completely unnoticed in the jdm street racing world until my husband a few other people started working on them. Hondas were king, especially in this part of the country. I think you understand my point, just be sure this guy is not your version of my husband’s former car. Other then that if your sister does not care then just be happy with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 I couldn't do it, but that's just me. ESPECIALLY if your sister and James slept together. Talk about double-dipping! Link to post Share on other sites
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