girlie908 Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 My boyfriend and I have not fought in quite a while, and I take that as a good sign since we used to fight fairly often, but that's because we go to the same college. Anyway, We've been going out for a year and a half, and last summer we fought a lot because when we're not together, it seems like he just stops feeling the need to contact with. Whether it's his comfortable-ness with the relationship, or his lack of consideration for my desire for contact, he becomes distant when we are apart. At school, we're great because we're always in each other's faces and we have the same friends. But right now we're separated by a 4 hour drive and we're taking summer classes. I am especially busy with 2 classes and working at the same time, while he is taking one class. Whereas I am willing to call, keep up contact and see how he is doing, I feel like he just doesn't feel the same way when we're not together. Of course I respect the idea that yes, he and I are both taking summer classes for a reason and have a responsibility to do well in those respective classes, we could handle being together during the school year, so I'm really not sure of what it is that makes him so distant when we're not together. He'll call like once or twice the week after we've separated, and then it's basically up to me to keep up the contact. His cell phone broke and he's waiting until August to get a new one. So no text messages, he doesn't email, and he deactivated his facebook account. So now the only way to keep in contact with him is calling his house-line (which I always feel weird about) since he never uses AIM. He could choose to call my cell phone, but he normally doesn't. Am I being clingy for wanting more contact? I mean sometimes it would go two days before we would actually talk, and I would be the one to initiate it. I mean hopefully this all doesn't mean he doesn't care, but then what should I do? Just accept the fact that I am going to be the one responsible for keeping the contact between us alive? That's just unfair on my part. It gets so bad that I consider how much he actually wants to be with me even though he says he loves me (granted after I say it to him first). He doesn't even say he misses me or loves me without me initiating it first. I'm supposed to see him this weekend because I'm going to New York this weekend for a mutual friend's graduation party. And he was even weird about this. I asked if I could stay with him, but he suggested staying at other people's places because it was more convenient, even though I want alone time with him. I think it may be partially due to the fact that he has an exam on the Wednesday the week after, but so do I. What should I do? Initiate a break with him after I see him this weekend or stay together and tough it out?
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