Internet dating site for Cheating.

[PandorasBox]

So single, unattached women are not appealing to you? Only women who are taken, provide fun and excitement for you?

[PandorasBox]

The Idea of having another man wife if I really wanted her.

 

 

Sorry, but this is what I got from my "distorted lens."

 

 

I never said you went through with anythig with a taken woman.

 

I asked a simple question about wheather or not single women were appealing to you or not . But taken or married women did. I didn't say you met up with them. You did state you were on a site about people who cheat with others right?

 

Thats where my question came from. And your tone is completley uncalled for.

[Topper]

You take one statement out of context. The Big word there is "IF" You have read nothing else in the post. Again read the whole post.

Your statement might have been passed off as a question, yet it reads like an angry finger of accusation pointed right at me.

I have said in my post, I have been on other date sites. I do not look for married woman. I have been dating woman that are divorced or other wise unattached.

[JackJack]

You take one statement out of context. The Big word there is "IF" You have read nothing else in the post. Again read the whole post.

Your statement might have been passed off as a question, yet it reads like an angry finger of accusation pointed right at me.

I have said in my post, I have been on other date sites. I do not look for married woman. I have been dating woman that are divorced or other wise unattached.

 

I'm sorry I don't see that the question PB asked was accustory.

 

I took it that she was just wondering if only married women were exciting to you and not single women.

 

I also don't see where she said that YOU DID look for married women.

 

But with sites such as those, its just not good to assume that is it? :rolleyes:Just like its not good to assume her question was accustory or pointing a finger at you.

[reservoirdog1]

In terms of morality, I'd put sites like that in the same category as cigarette companies.

 

Man, it's a sad commentary on our society that companies like that even exist. Maybe it's time we reconsidered communism.

[Tomcat33]

One thing the struck me is that in the US once an an Affair is discovered by the wife chances are the marriage will end in a divorce. If a husband finds out about his wife cheating there is less of a chance the marriage will end in divorce. Why is that?

In France and other parts of Europe an affair is seen as a rough patch that can most likely be over come. There is far less divorce over infidelity then in the US what is it about our attitudes that makes it something that can't be over come? As more woman enter the work place more are cheating. the numbers are almost as high as men cheating and this is in less then 10 years. Yes opportunity is now there, you still need motivation.

 

WOW that's an interesting fact that women end up in D and men don't as much. Can I ask you where you got that fact from? Just judging by the posts here on LS and of course this is just the perception on here, for what it's worth, is that it appears that it would be other way around. Women seem more willing to stick around and work on things after an A where as men can't seem to let their ego's accept the A.

 

Logic would point as to what you posted because men can seperate sex from emotion so they would maybe take a more "practical" approach to being cheated on, but what I have seen is that a man's bruised ego proves to be more lethal than most given women in the same position.

[Tomcat33]

In terms of morality, I'd put sites like that in the same category as cigarette companies.

 

Man, it's a sad commentary on our society that companies like that even exist. Maybe it's time we reconsidered communism.

 

I agree strong measures are def in order for how the great "advances" have actually set us back in some respects. Communism makes sense for a split second and then you think of all those communist countries that thrive on prostitution and you just end up convincing yourself that there is no answer to humanity's tendencies, destruction will happen no matter what...

 

And speaking of the sign of the times, the internet is the worst possible thing that could have been invented as far as A's go, it is one HUMONGOUS haven for affairs to take place. It's just so easy on the net and we are already dealing with a society that has decayed significantly over the decades as far as morals/values go, so...you do the math.

[NearlyThere]

Well if you go on these sites looking for people, wysiwyg, a person who is already involved with someone else, however, no matter how immoral or outrageous it is to some at least they are advertising their maritial status openly. There are many people around on dating sites/myspace etc, advertising themselves as single and looking for someone when in fact they then turn out to be married etc.

[EnigmasMuse]

I think if people are going to cheat, they're going to cheat. Cheating sites or not. I do think those sites who advertise its a cheating site make it somewhat more easy though. I also hope that the owners of those sites sleep well at night. And the people on them.

[Tomcat33]

Well if you go on these sites looking for people, wysiwyg, a person who is already involved with someone else, however, no matter how immoral or outrageous it is to some at least they are advertising their maritial status openly. There are many people around on dating sites/myspace etc, advertising themselves as single and looking for someone when in fact they then turn out to be married etc.

 

Yeah that's great point!! I suppose umongst all the wrongdoers there are different degrees of "doing wrong"

[Tomcat33]

I think if people are going to cheat, they're going to cheat. Cheating sites or not. I do think those sites who advertise its a cheating site make it somewhat more easy though. I also hope that the owners of those sites sleep well at night. And the people on them.

 

I don't think the type of people who run that site are all too concerned with morality or losing sleep over the type of service they provide. It's the nature of business, find a niche of something that is in demand and exploit it for personal monetary wealth. It's no different than prostitution, pornography or selling cigarettes or booze for that matter...if people want it there is always going to be someone who facilitates the acquirement of said "service". Sign of the times I suppose....

[RecordProducer]

This is nothing. I've seen a web site called date a millionaire or something like that. Like millionaires would post their profiles there.

 

"I am a millionaire and very lonely. I would like to meet a sincere woman who wouldn't want me for my money. I am very generous and want kids (am willing to pay child support even to the mother if she can biologically be my child given her age). I haven't put my picture on yet, but I figure it's not relevant.

 

My perfect date would be to meet downtown for a walk, I'll bring beer and snacks... I currently don't have a car, it's in the shop, so plan to finish the date before the last train departs.

 

I am not a paying member so I can't read your messages."

[JackJack]

I don't think the type of people who run that site are all too concerned with morality or losing sleep over the type of service they provide. It's the nature of business, find a niche of something that is in demand and exploit it for personal monetary wealth. It's no different than prostitution, pornography or selling cigarettes or booze for that matter...if people want it there is always going to be someone who facilitates the acquirement of said "service". Sign of the times I suppose....

 

This is true. The site owners are in it for a buck, and they wont lose sleep over whatever others are doing on their site, as long as they are paying.

[Lizzie60]

This is true. The site owners are in it for a buck, and they wont lose sleep over whatever others are doing on their site, as long as they are paying.

 

...the owners who makes big bucks.. no one is twisting their arms to register...

[Topper]

That's very true nobody is twisting anybody's arm to sign up. the owners of the company and The investors are filling a market . They could not exist without the market being there. It is people that choose to do this.

from reading post here and on some other sites. I would say that most of those who stray, do not find their partner on line. It is far more likely that they will meet in a social setting or at work.

Now does something like Ashley Madison mean as a society we are less moral today then say 100 years ago? I'm not sure. I use to live in a town that wasa western Boom town. In it's heyday back in the 1880s The town had 12 saloons and 24 whore houses.

In that same time period i once read that 1 out of every 4 woman in the lower class living in London wasa prostitute. It was also common for upper class young men to do a year or more in Paris or Rome and sew their wild oats. After witch they would come home and find a respectable Bride. Of course in due time those men would be going out to the local establishments to havea little fun. Proper woman of that time did not enjoy sex. A Proper wife only consented because it was her wifely duty.

My point is that the Internet sites are not a sign that we are lass moral. It is just that they are a new means to fill some primal human urge that has always existed.

[Great Gazoo]

A site like Ashley Madison is geared up more as a cybersex site for married women. Is that a form of cheating well that is another story. Very few I would think hook up from that site.

[RecordProducer]

A site like Ashley Madison is geared up more as a cybersex site for married women. Is that a form of cheating well that is another story. Very few I would think hook up from that site.

Speaking from your own experience?

[Topper]

I have noticed on AM a number of post by MW asking for cyber or phone contact only.

[TogetherForever]

Cyber or phone contact is no different than a mw watching porn & taking care of herself in the absence of her husband.

But then again "If you wouldn't want it done to you, don't do it to someone else".

[frannie]

My view on this kind of site has always been that if they're upfront about the level of commitment, then fewer people are going to get hurt. If it's all about sex and both of those going into it know that from the start then no one is going to be strung along hoping for one or the other of them to leave their partners. Almost all the misery and anguish about being an OP is about the married person saying their marriage is awful and never doing a damned thing about it.

 

Of course I can't condone people looking outside marriage for sex, great conversation or whatever. But basically, if your sex life or relationship with your partner has gone to the dogs, and you're doing nothing about that, then my view is that you have to expect they MAY well be looking elsewhere.

[shellys-trying]

I'm just wondering if anyone even knows what the word "fidelity" means anymore.

 

Very sad.