princess75 Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 Well..it is over now. I was having contact with him with hope of saving something but he was becomin rude, verbally abusive and disrespectful. Also he was asking me for moey...which as a spouse I was saying..well we can save and you can have x amount in 2 months. Welll...he was saying he was feeling down and depressed.....I dont know why I decided to check if he had filed divorce...guess what yes he had! And no dignity to tell me about it! And kep on interacting ..... Well..if I thought friendship could be done after .....I guess not... Anyone out there has friendship with an ex? First heal right?
Trimmer Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 Well, in a case where one or the other (or both) parties feels wounded, and if kids aren't involved, I would definitely say stay away and heal first. And I would think, given a hurtful past, I would want a pretty compelling positive reason to want to re-establish a friendship before I would even consider it. In short, why bother? If kids are involved, it's a whole different thing, as I believe both parties have a responsibility to continue a good working parental relationship, even if the spousal relationship disappears completely.
notspiritual Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 Princess75, you might want to read this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t119154/
Trimmer Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 Princess75, you might want to read this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t119154/ I agree - that's a good reference, with some different points of view well presented. Princess: I don't remember whether you 've mentioned it or not, but do you have kids?
Author princess75 Posted June 4, 2007 Author Posted June 4, 2007 No, I dont have kids. In fact the marriage was less than a year....it is weird..as I have been living solely for this to work, now I see bigger picture in life. ..now one thing is most people without kids who want friendship is based on "wanting something else" Right ? Or cause healing is harder. My question is why give friendship when relationship was love ? Or can friendship rekindle love?
socialight Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 but i ended up being pretty good friends with my ex wife for about 3 years.
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