halfarock Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 And #2 thing to me that makes a guy attractive is someone who hasn't had a promiscuous past and banged a bunch of hookers. Preferably someone who hasn't had sex with a professional, this is really a major turn off for me. … … and guys banging hookers. This is also rare and hard to find, since majority of guys have banged a whore at some point in their lives. Banging a whore includes getting a happy ending at a massage parlor, getting a lap dance until orgasm, going to third world countries for sex vacations, high class call girls, etc etc It's really hard for me to believe there could be a guy out there that doesn't participate in any of those activities. Seriously, 99.9 percent of men cheat or bang hookers. Really? This is ridiculous. I never banged a hooker and never will. Can’t even imagine it.
sweetscarlet Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 Sure, perhaps older and more educated couples are less likely to divorce, so instead they put up with their partners cheating and screwing around behind their back. Or else they go to therapy and marriage counseling. I think that you're correct. Those who get married at a later age and who are more educated often have more invested in a marriage, including finances as well as their corporate image. A corporate guy isn't likely to want to ruin his image on the job after he's built himself up as a "stable family man", whereas the mechanic who works at the corner garage doesn't really have that image to uphold---or the risk of losing a lot financially. Just because the rate of divorce is lower in those who marry later and that are more educated doesn't mean that they cheat less often than the general population. At least not from what I've seen. But I certainly don't think that all men cheat and cheating is not exclusive to men anyway.
tanbark813 Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 Banging a whore includes getting a happy ending at a massage parlor, getting a lap dance until orgasm, going to third world countries for sex vacations, high class call girls, etc etc Nope, never done any of those either. Seriously, 99.9 percent of men cheat or bang hookers. A male friend once told me that he is a guy and therefore he knows that ALL guys would cheat if they knew they could get away with it. He told me it was a secret that all males shared. My ex told me the same thing, he said that all men get tired of one woman after a while, they need sexual variety. Sounds like you just have really poor taste in men. Don't blame your lack of judgment on the entire male gender. Perhaps you are one of the needles... :love: I'd like to think so.
BonneKarma Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 Yeah - is this question asking for physical attributes or what I would look for in a date? I'll go with the date. A lot of these qualities go hand in hand with eachother: Confidence Social skills (knows how to make conversation, is polite, etc.) Warm smile Optimistic personality (I have no time for doom and gloom or overly cynical people) Passion for interests and/or career Similar values Some care taken for appearance (clean, smells good, decent clothes - but not high maintenance) Sense of humour An obvious interest in getting to know me
BonneKarma Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 Oh and shouldn't the whole hookers and cheating thing be started as another thread? I really don't think most men have had sex with a hooker. No way. And I know that not all men cheat, even if many do. It doesn't mean they haven't thought about both of those things though and maybe even come close... I have to remain optimistic that there is a good guy somewhere who is perfect for me... they say you attract what you put out there.
underpants Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 OP, you seem to have a jaded, almost venomous air to your posts. Should I assume that you have been cheated on? Well, welcome to the human race. We all step in a little pooh here and there on our journey. Not all people cheat. Some never have, some have learned not to by making a grave error and learning from it. That being said some people do cheat, some have gotten laid by hookers, some have no conscious about their acts, while others lie and hide it. I guess you have your Hugh Heffners and your Paul McCartneys. It's a crap shoot, really. I don't know what to tell you on that one, except maybe really getting to know someone before choosing to share a life and family with them. Although I am not an avid viewer, isn't the Springer show and other afternoon shock TV programs riddled with drama plucked fresh from poor communities to entertain the masses? This would I think blow holes in your Robin Hood theory of fidelity. Love is a leap at some point, you can't control another person and in trying, you are almost certain to drive them away. I liked what another poster said about inviting into your life what you think. If you are convinced that all people cheat, then don't be dissappointed when that is what you get. It might be time to try to find proof that that is not the case and find a new way of thinking and inviting what you want into your life. Regards, Unders....(non cheater, and not alone)
GregsBad Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 I am not picky, The #1 thing is on my list is something that is EXTREMELY rare and HARD to find, it sounds simple, but 99.9 percent of men in this world cannot meet this requirement. It's simply to be faithful and not stick his penis in another woman's cooch. It is a VERY rare species of men that can do this. I really think that almost all men cheat. Well Cutegirl, I'm one of those rare 0.1% guys who hasn't banged a hooker and would not cheat. But forget about it OK, because I could never be with a woman who calls a p*ssy a cooch.
Trimmer Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 A male friend once told me that he is a guy... But since 99.9% of men lie, can you really be sure he is? (I know that all men lie because it's "a secret all men share." Really, even though I'm just one man, you can assume that I speak authoritatively for the behavior of all men, but of course, only if I confirm your previously held assumptions...) Bringing it back to the original topic of attractiveness, I wonder if you tend to attract what you believe. In other words, if you believe that 99.9% of the opposite sex cheats, I wonder if you end up putting off a grumpy vibe that drives away the true percentage of ones who don't, so you end up with a self-selected dating pool that tends to confirm your suspicisons, even if you are way off... Incidentally, Star Gazer started a thread (here) in which to weigh in on the "have you ever cheated" question, so we can let this one drift back on-topic... Confidence without arrogance This - exactly as stated - has always been my goal for myself, just for inner reasons that this is how I want to be. Good to know it may have a side benefit as well... I've always found it attractive in women, too.
alphamale Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 Confidence without arrogance can you elaborate LA? especially on the part about how one would extricate arrogance from confidence...
Krytellan Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 Most people here is so bitter and jaded. I think all of you need to go out, get a puppy, and take him/her for a nice long walk in a park on a sunny day. A change of perspective might do you dome good... and perhaps add a few years to your life. As far as cheating: Anyone is capable of anything. It's those that avoid dangerous situations that don't cheat. As far as attractive, I think I fit most of the women's lists here, so I suppose that bodes well for me for the rest of my dating life. It seems I will never be at a loss for a woman. OK, so does that statement make me arrogant or confident? can you elaborate LA? especially on the part about how one would extricate arrogance from confidence... If they're not hot to get in your pants, it's arrogance. If they can't wait to sleep with you, it's confidence. Two people could have the same personality, but it would be the "ugly" one that was considered arrogant.
GregsBad Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 I am not picky, The #1 thing is on my list is something that is EXTREMELY rare and HARD Understood ... I wish you luck
alphamale Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 Two people could have the same personality, but it would be the "ugly" one that was considered arrogant. so all other things being the same the good looking dude will be considered confident and the ugly dude arrogant? is that how it works? personally I think arrogance makes up a big part of confidence and therefore the two cannot be seperated, at least for men.
cuteblondegurl Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 Good sense of humor, honest, sweet, good in bed and accepts me for who I am.
Author loveinlife Posted June 8, 2007 Author Posted June 8, 2007 Good sense of humor, honest, sweet, good in bed and accepts me for who I am. geez, i am the kind you are looking for. I get a lot of girls who like me...but i am picky, which gives me nothing in the end.
DanielMadr Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 geez, i am the kind you are looking for. I get a lot of girls who like me...but i am picky, which gives me nothing in the end. Where is humor, honesty and sweetness in your reply? All she knows now about you is that only ugly girls like you.
Author loveinlife Posted June 8, 2007 Author Posted June 8, 2007 that is an honest answer, thats why i get nothing lol
DanielMadr Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 that is an honest answer, thats why i get nothing lol If you are looking for what women want in a man, dont ask them. It is hard to describe and in most cases they just dont know exactly or not at all. Take your pick http://www.diserio.com/malematrix.html
Lady Aurora Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Confidence without arrogance can you elaborate LA? especially on the part about how one would extricate arrogance from confidence... I believe it is quite possible to be confident and self-assure without bleeding over into arrogance. One can have confidence and practice humility. That kind of person exudes an inner strength that is very attractive. Aura
bish Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I am not picky, The #1 thing is on my list is something that is EXTREMELY rare and HARD to find, it sounds simple, but 99.9 percent of men in this world cannot meet this requirement. It's simply to be faithful and not stick his penis in another woman's cooch. It is a VERY rare species of men that can do this. . Well damn, that makes me quite a catch to be in the .1 percent. And if you really believe your statistic, good luck being an old maid.
bish Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Banging a whore includes getting a happy ending at a massage parlor, getting a lap dance until orgasm, going to third world countries for sex vacations, high class call girls, etc etc It's really hard for me to believe there could be a guy out there that doesn't participate in any of those activities. . Maybe thats because you hate men and don't want to see it. I've never had a massage for anything but a massage. I've never been overseas, and I have never, believe it or not, had a lapdance. Only time I stepped in a strip club was when I was younger at a friends bachelor party. And the only thing that happened to my friend is he got his ass whipped bad on the stage. Needless to say, he got no enjoyment out of that night. We made sure of it.
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