ILOVEG Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 This is a difficult situation ive gotten myself into.. I met this man almost 4 years ago.. I went to work for him and we were best friends. We spent all of our time together and if we werent together he was calling me. When my best friend seen us together the first time after about a month or two of seeing each other she told me , "That man loves you " . I thought so too. He always opened up to me and we did everything together. He told me i always had a job there and that nothing would ever change that ... Here goes the problem.. He is married. but he wasnt happy and lived in his shop which was almost an hour from his family . She never came there unless he told her she could. which was maybe once a year. He wasnt happy with her but remained married for the kids so he said. We were seen together everywhere and if she came around i was nice . I didnt want to be a problem. My kids played with his and he was close to my kids and also tried to help with disiplin and what i should do with them.. He helped me get into a house and gave me appliances and was just always there. But i found out that he was seeing his wifes sister in law, I was so sick , i found a email where she told him she loved him . and i found out that once a month since she lived so far away they would meet half way at a motel . He would spend the day with her... This tore me up so badly . Me and him both had told each other from the start that we knew each other somehow ,.It was like he was my other half.. He never once told me how he felt about me , but everyone around us told me this man was crazy about me. I stuck around and kept working for him for a time and one day she called , i went off , and he told me to leave , so i threatened him with it and he told me not to ever step foot on his property again . I went and drawed unemployment on him , he was pissed. Yet he still contacted me and let me work some after . He wanted to spend time with his kids because they were growing up without him , so he found a house next to his place for sale and moved them down here. I was just happythat he wanted to be with his kids, He hired one of his best friends wife to work there and i was hurt . I didnt get to see him much anymore , when we would argue he would wait months to talk to me and tell me when he got ready to talk to me he would call. His wife started hanging out there and i was pushed aside. Yet after all the times we have said goodbye to each other we always seem to get back together for a bit . then months pass once again. He ask me to come up there the other weekend ,(we hadnt seen each other in 3 months but have talked ) So i went , He was drunk , this is not like him . He seemed depressed and talked about the past and said he didnt have any friends , He just wanted to crawl under a rock and die. we talked for a while and yet he couldnt keep his hands off me , and yes i gave in once again . The next day which was monday of this week , i got a strange Phone call , a girl asking for rena, that is not my name so i told her she had the wrong number . He had told me before that the girl he hired was best friends with his wife now , Yet when i checked the number it was the girl on the voice message that works for him . So i ask him why would she be calling my number , he told me he had no clue and got mad , said she prob got it off the caller id at the shop. But still what reason would she have in calling me ? He said she was checkin on him for his wife, Not sure i believe that . I sent the girl a text and ask her not to be calling my number and hanging up on me , if she had something to say to me to say it . I told him i had a conversation with her and that i hope he gets what he deserves. He told me once again after about the 15th time to Leave him alone , but the phone conversation before this the day before he told me that we need to cut our ties and said we had great memories and he wanted to keep them , and then said , when he went to hang up "ILL call you later " . What the crap , this man goes from telling me goodbye to saying ill call. I dont understand this. this man is the love of my life and i cant seem to move on . I have a fear that i wont hear from him again and it scares me . I try to be happy but im just not . Help
meleeda Posted June 6, 2007 Posted June 6, 2007 If I were you I would forget this man and move on, he sounds like no matter what he is a player and is telling you stories to keep you on his list of women to use while he is needing a romp. If he truly loved you he would not be with others.
socialight Posted June 7, 2007 Posted June 7, 2007 this guy is a career philanderer who sleeps with his inlaws? He was cheating on his wife with you, and you were ok with it, and then he cheated on you with an inlaw, and you still stuck around? What on god's green earth do you expect to happen to you when you condone and/or participate in such behaviour? Could you possibly think you wanted this guy to help with your children, knowing his extremely dishonest sexual behaviour? It's not his fault he lied, cheated on you, and treated you like crap, it's your fault for tolerating it to begin with.
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