a tricky one....when to go into no contact

[funkybassplayer]

Hi my ex girlfreind of a year and her 3 kids, recently broke up with me. She is now (after 2 weeks being apart) seeing a new guy who has forbid her and me to make contact.Its now 6 weeks on. I want to move on but finding it so hard as she is in my head most of the time. There was still lots of love and affection at the end, and it all happend for me too fast. I never got a chance to say goodby to the kids who i loved and they me, as she wanted to be friends, but now cant be. new guy forbids it (its a long distance too) 3 days ago she sent a text saying hope im ok, i replied that im having a bit of a hard time, and miss her and the kids, and said what i missed about her. I never got a reply, but did not expect one and then again she never text back sod off! It took guts for me to say those things the easy option would have been yes im fine, but thats not true! I know she missis me as she said just 2 weeks ago. We have been in very low contact. My point is do i just fade and go into no contact, (I would like to be friends later on for the kids really). n/c i feel will be really hard, or do i leave it for a while then try to talk to her, to make some peace in myself? I feel like i have a beast inside me trying to escape. Or maybe just send her an email with my thoughts, good and bad. (shes 34 im 41) after this guy came along, i felt i was tossed aside. (new guy was giving her hard time over me and her x husband) I was'nt allowed to talk with her or the kids, and its eating me up. Im not sure if she will talk cause this new guy seems to me very controlling. im not sure if i may get even more upset if i do chat with her, even in general. Any help would be good. I havent made much contact since the split. If she knows i still love her (by the text i sent) and am not contacting her would this give me self respect and repect from her too. im glad she knows my feelings for her and the kids still. I know if i would have said yes im fine, it maybe would have made her feel better, but we were soul mates for a year and i was a part of there family, she deserves the truth, and i felt better that she knows it. Afetr all i lost 4 people not just one! Any help would be great, thanks