MELLOW808 Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 I dated a woman who was older than I am. I am 26. She is 37. I never believed that age defined a relationship. We met each other at work. We dated for about 5-6 months. I never saw a future with her. I liked her a lot. Towards the end I started to fall in love with her. She broke it off, saying that I was too young. Closer in age to her son, she said. Her son was 15. So I was devistated. It was hard to go to work and see her there and feel like that. I found another job and left there. She was mainly the reason, but the other job offered better opportunities for myself. I tried to be her friend, but I just had feelings for her, that she did not have for me. So I thought it best try to seperate myself. Eight months pass, and I see her parked in a car next to mine at a grocery store. I didn't know what to make of it. I come to find out she was with this guy from work, that she is dating now. I know its been a long time, but I still had feelings for her like I said, and felt hurt. Here she is, dating someone even younger than me. I felt really bad at myself. I see her at party, becasue we share mutual friends, who she met through me by the way, and I was just heart broken. I knew she was there with her new boyfriend. I thought that, that should not keep me away from my friends just because she is there. I knew who that guy was. I used to work with him. I never considered him a friend. I just wanted to knock that guy out. We talked outside, she said she never meant to hurt me by doing this and that we broke up eight months ago. I agreed, but asked why she contradicted herself of our breakup by going out with this guy...Her reply was that it was eight months ago. So, I sat there watching these two being all intimate with each other, while I was feeling really bad. I talked about it with everyone I know. It seems like no one can understand the way I'm feeling. This is the lowest I have ever felt.
NorCalDave Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 I dated a woman who was older than I am. I am 26. She is 37. I never believed that age defined a relationship. We met each other at work. We dated for about 5-6 months. I never saw a future with her. I liked her a lot. Towards the end I started to fall in love with her. She broke it off, saying that I was too young. Closer in age to her son, she said. Her son was 15. So I was devistated. It was hard to go to work and see her there and feel like that. I found another job and left there. She was mainly the reason, but the other job offered better opportunities for myself. I tried to be her friend, but I just had feelings for her, that she did not have for me. So I thought it best try to seperate myself. Eight months pass, and I see her parked in a car next to mine at a grocery store. I didn't know what to make of it. I come to find out she was with this guy from work, that she is dating now. I know its been a long time, but I still had feelings for her like I said, and felt hurt. Here she is, dating someone even younger than me. I felt really bad at myself. I see her at party, becasue we share mutual friends, who she met through me by the way, and I was just heart broken. I knew she was there with her new boyfriend. I thought that, that should not keep me away from my friends just because she is there. I knew who that guy was. I used to work with him. I never considered him a friend. I just wanted to knock that guy out. We talked outside, she said she never meant to hurt me by doing this and that we broke up eight months ago. I agreed, but asked why she contradicted herself of our breakup by going out with this guy...Her reply was that it was eight months ago. So, I sat there watching these two being all intimate with each other, while I was feeling really bad. I talked about it with everyone I know. It seems like no one can understand the way I'm feeling. This is the lowest I have ever felt. Bro I know you are feeling. I am almost 29, and I have been in love with a woman 20 years older than me for the past 3 years. We met at the gym I used to work at and we jumped right in, even though she was still living with her boyfriend. We should have waited until they broke up completely, because he ended up stalking us and she went back to him because of alot of reasons. Her and I went back and forth for a few years, and last September we got back together. However, once again she left me saying she was insecure with our age gap. She can't give me kids, she is a commitmentphobe, and she can't seem to let go of her ex, who she isn't in love with, but loves and is codpendent with. I saw her at the gym a couple weeks ago working out with some dude my age who was all steroided out and short and bald....dude has nothing on me and isn't her type...but I got all jealous inside and I wanted to react but I didn't. I couldn't help but think, "You dumped me because I am younger, but now I see you working out with a guy my age?" F- you! Oh, I was fired up, but I think it was harmless and I think he actually might be gay. Whatever the case, she's selling herself short by getting with any guy BUT me, so she's the one missing out. You have to have that attitude. She is missing out on you. She left you for whatever reason, blamed it on age, and then goes out with another co-worker similar in age. Sounds like a witch to me. And I could actually see my ex doing the same thing. I don't know if the age gap is really the issue here or not. I think there are many other issues like commitmentphobia, emotional unavailability, and codependence with her ex. Maybe my ex is like yours. Try not to let her get to you. You can only control yourself, so be like me and try to either A) Enjoy being by yourself, or B) Finding someone who will want to be with you as much as you them.
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