Tomcat33 Posted June 2, 2007 Posted June 2, 2007 Because people prefer to see cheating as human error, while an OW/OM going after someone they know is married as a malicious deliberate act of marital sabotage. It is easier to forgive a 'mistake' than it is a deliberate act. WOW so cheating is seen as human error and being an OW/OM is a malicious deliberate act? Just WOW. May I just say that 99.9% of the time it is the cheater who persists and goes "after" the affair, they become very agressive in pursuing what they want and assure the OP they are doing so to get a away from their horrible homelife/marriage that they are planning on leaving. THAT'S human error and not a malicious act? LB you don't actually agee with what you posted up there do you? You were just speaking for the way of thinking on LS, am I correct? Please tell me you don't agree with that....
Ruby Tuesday Posted June 2, 2007 Posted June 2, 2007 URGH!!!!!!! I should've known better.... Look, no one, but no one can justify an affair. It's immoral, end of story. But one needs to recognise that there are those OW who, now embroiled in one, recognise that it's wrong and need support to get out. On the other hand there are BS who are here to further their own agenda, attention seek, justify their embittered stance, but there are also those BS that are in genuine pain. Pick your battles. I have no agenda. I will respectfully refrain from posting in this thread.
Freedom Now Posted June 2, 2007 Posted June 2, 2007 Ripples... EVERYONE that has been embroiled in these situations is in pain. And every situation is different. But we all feel pain. I just wish there could be a comradery. A kinship. The BS and OW alike have wonderful attributes. But we are all different. And that is a good thing. That is what makes this world so unique. Heaping more pain upon more pain is unhealthy. And I think everyone here for the most part wants to get more healthy. Is there a way to do this? I think so. Some of the angriest BS's to have ever posted here are dear friends of mine now. And I was an OW. (Do you remember Chump64? We formed an unlikely kinship, and I treasure her friendship to this day...) As for whether this can happen here on LS: the jury is still out on that. I think the emotions are just so highly charged here.... But kudos to you for trying to forge this task. I, an exOW, will join you in this endeavor. It is time.
Onelife Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 Ripples... In short, I would like to say...in your own words posted in my thread, "it's people like you who inspire me"! Thank you for your understanding and openmindness. They make this world that is full of differences a better place.
Onelife Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 Freedom Now... Kinship is right! It's what I can relate to people and their situations in this board. Some are similar, some are different. I just have to pick the ones that I can relate and learn from. You are so right about differences that make this world so unigue. I've read a lot of your posts and found them very encouraging. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I've learned so much and hope to get to where you are one day. Oh I love your signature!
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 LB you don't actually agee with what you posted up there do you? You were just speaking for the way of thinking on LS, am I correct? Please tell me you don't agree with that.... No, I don't agree with it personally.
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