AriaIncognito Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 Before I get flamed, I didn't write this email and I dont believe it applies to only men. All you men reading, change the word man to woman to apply to yourself. I found this to be quite true. Truth hurts, but it's definitely a good read. From below the asterisks on, is the email. I don't know the author. ************************************************** BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT.............. If A MAN WANTS YOU If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage.. deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
Teacher's Pet Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 Good post. A lot of it rings true, especially for me. A lot of the things mentioned in there are promises I made to myself... never to let a woman "ruin me" again. -tp f**k with me. i dare ya.
MELLOW808 Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 a lot this answers the questions im asking to myself. it kinda helps.
MELLOW808 Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 a lot this answers the questions im asking to myself. it kinda helps. LISTENING TO "THE STROKES" "YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE"
Author AriaIncognito Posted June 2, 2007 Author Posted June 2, 2007 Nobody else thinks it was a good read? Surprised...
MagnoliaJane Posted June 2, 2007 Posted June 2, 2007 I really like it! House, garden and kitchen psychology but true nevertheless. We all need a healthy dose of reality each day; thank you for sharing! It brightened my otherwise not-so-good day... -MJ
Ssheena Posted June 2, 2007 Posted June 2, 2007 I think it's a good read Aria. Thanks for posting it.
CaliGuy Posted June 2, 2007 Posted June 2, 2007 Aria, I've seen it many times before but it's a good read. Thanks for posting it.
nittygritty Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 I think its a good read and I agree with all but the line...Dating is fun. Dating is not fun to me unless your attracted to the person your going to be going out with. Thanks for posting this Ariawoman
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