geneboy73 Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 All, I wanted to thank all of you for your support. I have decided to file for divorce on Tuesday. The STBX and I have come up with our separation agreement paperwork together and things have gone relatively smoothly (most of the time). I am very hopeful for the future and beginning a new life without having an emotional/financial boat anchor attached to me. I have had a wonderful time with my STBX, but things were never truly "right" with her and I for a long time. In the end, I guess I just decided to "cut my losses and move on". She's just not going to be happy being married nor does she intend to work work on her issues which prevent us from having a great life together. I guess I really feel that two people can't just live together as "best friends" all the time, there needs to be some passion (at least initially during the early years of marriage) or some striving by both parties to make that a part of the relationship. One can't force the other to feel a certain way or force them to work on something they simply don't want to try to fix. My ex will probably date and date and date from here on and never be happy with any guy. Heck, she may even be jumping into the next relationship with Joe Schmoe for all I know. But right now, I just don't care which direction she goes, as long as its not in mine. She's gonna take that baggage wherever she goes and dump her problems on the next guy and the next guy. I'm 33, a good person, I have a good job, I'm attractive, and cultured. I've got a lot to offer and in a short time I will be dating and maybe someday I will find the right woman. This opportunity to get out of this relationship EARLY, is a blessing and a second chance and I have to remember that right now amid all the sadness I feel. Suddenly I feel like I have been asleep for a few years and now I am awake again and ready to start a new day. This is an exciting time. I know from reading the threads that a lot of you are in the same EXACT position I am with maybe a few extra "variables". I guess the moral of this post is that you can't always view these things as and "end of a story" and more like the "end of a chapter" of a book where there are many many pages yet to be read. I can't take credit for that, actually my dad said that the other night to me. And yes Gunny, he's a Marine too. I guess somewhere you guys learn to give good advice. For all of you out there who are going through this, keep positive, and remember there are MANY others out there in the SAME position you are. Turn the page my friends...
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