ntxguy27 Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 Hi, So I'm new here, came across your site and figured I had nothing to lose and everything to gain by posting. My situation is, I met a girl 3 weeks ago, I was introduced to her by a woman I dated years ago. We have hung out several times since then, while I wasn't immediately told of her situation I soon figured it out and had it confirmed. She had been single for 3 months, her ex and herself were living in a home. He moved out and moved away and broke up with her. She told me on numerous occasions how she got phone calls from him numerous times asking her back. This girl always tells me how I make her feel great, make her laugh and how she loves hanging out with me and how she would like more. Last night, her ex made a surprise visit to her house and she wanted to crash at my place. Apparently her ex showed up with a trailer to move the last of his stuff out of her house. I told her she is more than welcome to crash at my house. She was going to be at my place at 7. Didn't happen for numerous excuses (she kept delaying). By 11:00 she tells me she is about ready to head over. I told her it's late, I have to work at 7, and she should just crash at her own place since the night is nearly over and she has put up with her ex for this long. She didn't seem to like that. My out of state friend thinks I am wasting my time with her, that she is damaged goods and on the rebound and probably banging her ex. After talking with him I got rid of her. He thinks I need to quit going dating so much (I date a lot, probably because I enjoy a woman's company and am missing male companionship). I have tons of women who I still talk to, but none that really fulfill me. I'm a pretty attractive guy, I meet all my dates online which isn't working well for me. Maybe that needs to stop as well. I need to make male friends but at 27 its a bit hard to do. In my line of work, they are all older men. The three male friends I had since I moved here are all married now. Sure, I could go sit at a bar or club alone and hope to meet some new people but that looks kind of pathetic. I've done it before, and thats how I've felt. I have no idea what I'm looking for, I've been single now for over 2 years. I was crushed in my last relationship. I guess I am broken in just about every sense of the word. I am highly successful for my age, I just don't have anyone to share it with. Working from home these past two months have really shown me how sad and pathetic my life currently is. My time is spent working 8 to 5, and after 5 its on the hunt to meet a woman that will complete me. I know it's not healthy. However, a year ago I was 220 lbs, now I am 145 lbs and have been workign out like crazy. That's how I was passing the time and making myself feel better. Now that I reached my weight goal, I have too much time on my hands again. Sorry for the ramble...maybe if someone can stomach reading this novel I can get some pointers on how to live life lol.
oppath Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 Nothing is wrong with dating a lot brah, and congrats on the weight loss and exercise. It's cool you did so well with that and you should feel pride. It sounds to me like you need to do more things for yourself ON TOP of working out and dating. Making more guy friends is a great goal, and I think all single guys should make this a goal as much as finding women to date. Something about that masculine energy is necessary. Over the past couple years most of my friends have been female and now I'm looking for more of a balance. So how are you going to do it? Well, join a coed softball or kickball league. Take an acting class. Do social activities where you will see the same people every week, males and females, and make new friends. A woman can't complete you, but if you live a full life, she'll make everything else more enjoyable. Live that full life.
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