brazuca Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 Well .. I've been dating this girl for a little over 2 months now. We really love each other, we were sweethearts back on the elementary school days. I'm up to a point that I can't picture myself without her. The problem about our relationship is that she lives on a city that is about 3 hours from where I live. I go see her every 2 weeks, the bad thing about that is the fact that I have to go on Saturday and come back Sunday, because of my job. Anyways, the problem I'm having is the fact that we haven't really gotten through the "kissing stages." Don't get me wrong, I wasn't expecting us to be having sex and all, but I was hoping for something else besides the kissing. She is a virgin and from what she has told me, none of her previous boyfriends tried touching her and all. The fact that I don't see her much, and that she is really shy kinda "worries" me. I might not be making any sense at all, but I was wondering if anybody has encoutered this problem with intimacy before. Thanks!
taiko Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 How old are the two of you? Does she have religious objections? What are your expectations of "greater intimacy"? That you passed the 3 date stage and you think you should get masturbated or fellated because of that.
Author brazuca Posted June 1, 2007 Author Posted June 1, 2007 How old are the two of you? Does she have religious objections? What are your expectations of "greater intimacy"? That you passed the 3 date stage and you think you should get masturbated or fellated because of that. We're both 20. She doesn't really have any religious objections, but she do goes to church every Sunday and has stated that she doesn't plan to have sex until she is married. I don't expect to get masturbated, I just wanted her to be more liberal when it comes to the whole touching thing. Like, she kinda lets me touch her and all, but when I try to touch inside her clothes, she won't let me. I don't know, I was just wondering about the fact that since I don't see her as much, we would be really slow on getting intimate with each other.
BlueEyedSarah Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 she do goes to church every Sunday and has stated that she doesn't plan to have sex until she is married. You have to respect her wishes when it comes to sex, you will have to wait until you are both ready to be married to have sex as it sounds like thats her intentions. she kinda lets me touch her and all, but when I try to touch inside her clothes, she won't let me. Looks like she is not ready to do anything with you, thats understandable since it has only been 2 months after all... Just take things slow and don't rush things.
Trialbyfire Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 She's set her boundaries, awaiting marriage. You may find that it's actually better to keep it a little distant, rather than go that far. I say better because frustration will be much higher, the further you go.
taiko Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 We're both 20. She doesn't really have any religious objections, but she do goes to church every Sunday and has stated that she doesn't plan to have sex until she is married. Sounds like she has a religious objection to me. At 20 she is old enough to be going to church by choice, Unless she goes to church involuntarily for a reason like living at home rent free. As a church goer she has a reason beside saying you are not good enough to abstain. There are many liberal churches but I know of none which would reccomend the intamacy you seek as a pre-intercourse action. I don't expect to get masturbated, I just wanted her to be more liberal when it comes to the whole touching thing. Like, she kinda lets me touch her and all, but when I try to touch inside her clothes, she won't let me. I don't know, I was just wondering about the fact that since I don't see her as much, we would be really slow on getting intimate with each other. Being in a LDR makes no difference. She is trying to save herself for the one at this point. Instictively she knows that you won't be satisfied by showing a little intimacy. Eventually your groping her will lead to sucking on her breast next time then masturbation then.......until you get to ejaculating inside of her. Easiest way to avoid that is to cut it off at the start
Author brazuca Posted June 2, 2007 Author Posted June 2, 2007 Thx for all the replies. After I posted I kinda thought about it and came to a decision that I will wait as long as it takes, it will be better that way. For some reason I found it funny as hell what taiko posted: Eventually your groping her will lead to sucking on her breast next time then masturbation then.......until you get to ejaculating inside of her.
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