shanshan Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 I've been with my partner for 5 years we met at school and were madly in love:love: we moved in together 2 years ago and everything was going fine then one day out of the blue he decided he needed a break from us. i haven't coped very well and if this is a break then shouldn't we stop seeing each other? i have probably not seen him 3 days out of nearly 2 months i'm confused and don't know wat to do:(:(:(
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 1. one day out of the blue he decided he needed a break from us. 2. if this is a break then shouldn't we stop seeing each other? 1. Breakups are never out of the blue. They only seem that way because the person dumping you hides the emotional turmoil leading up to it, and hides the real reason they are dumping you. You get lame excuses like "I need a break" or "I need time" or "I need space" or "I need to find myself". Rarely do you get the truth: I have fallen out of love with you and no longer want to be in a relationship with you. Unfortunately, you also get the 'wean off' method of breakup, where they give you some impression that there is hope by wanting to be 'friends' or 'keep in contact' when all they are doing is walking away slowly. Make no mistake about it, they are walking away and anything you do to try to make them come back will be met with a quicker pace of walking away. 2. Yep. When someone hands you a break, the best thing to do is hand them back a firm break up. There is no point to a break. All it does is hurt and confuse the person who is being dumped, and allows the dumper to feel less guilty about what they are doing. What to do? Call him up, explain that this 'break' isn't working for you and that you want to break up, and that you don't want him to contact you in any way, shape or form. Do not contact him either. Then, start the painful process of getting your head and heart back together, and move on with your life without him. Happiness can be found out there, but not as long as this guy is in your life in this way. Best to cut him loose, and start again.
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