pelagicsands Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 My 8-year old sons stated they'd rather die than kiss a girl on the vagina. Is this just casual conversation, or have they been browsing through your DVD collection? Sure - a breakup (for example) is far worse than death, but at least you get over it... eventually. I don't see too many people digging their way out of their plots.
RecordProducer Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 Is this just casual conversation, or have they been browsing through your DVD collection? Hahah! It was like them teasing each other about all kinds of outrageous things and one of them said "My brother kissed Jessie's vagina!" (that was supposed to sound like 'my brother ate dog's poop' or something like that). Then we asked them "Would you?" Of course, he took the question like "Would you eat dog's poop?" But it was funny and they didn't get the sexual connotation. We convinced them that sex is kissing and hugging (they asked). They asked us if we had sex before we married... we said we don't remember! I hope they won't tell the school's psychologist "Oh, our parents have sex in front of us all the time!" now that they (don't) know what it is!
RecordProducer Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 breakup (for example) is far worse than deathIt depends. I know a person who died with his mistress in a car from carbon monoxide. I don't think his wife grieved too much over him! She caught him cheating and got her revenge at the same time! (Or perhaps she already knew he was cheating and her prayers were heard.)
Walk Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 Maybe I'm not awake yet, but what did you mean by this? So - I'm curious to hear from some men on how they get past something like this. I have other ways to get around this too. There some guys on this forum who probably suspected where I was going with this, and they have thier ways too 'Cause I interpret this to mean that you want to bamboozal women to get them into bed, and you'll say anything as long as they end up on their backs. I don't think you meant that... but kind of sounded like that. Like you'd lie, bend the truth, or exagerate just to get them into bed. (just curious.... ) p.s. I thought your example of causing the woman to turn the convo into how sexual she really is was a "good way around this".
Author GregsBad Posted June 3, 2007 Author Posted June 3, 2007 ... but kind of sounded like that. Like you'd lie, bend the truth, or exagerate just to get them into bed. p.s. I thought your example of causing the woman to turn the convo into how sexual she really is was a "good way around this". It would be my way of turning her towards being more honest! And, in THAT case, she was NOT being honest, not at first. Girls lie too And it was my way of letting her know what I want and how I interpreted her remark. If she MEANT it, then she could confirm it. If she didn't mean it, she could then clarify it. Once she realized she gave the wrong signal, she corrected herself, which I appreciated. Look, one of the points I'm trying to make here, to women, is that kind of remark may likely be misunderstood, even a turn off. There are things that MEN do as turn-offs too - but keep it up because they don't "get it". Well, I think this is one for the girls. Do you WANT to send those signals? Then by all means, say those words. But if you DON'T want to send those signals, why not find another way to communicate how you really feel. Girls should be honest too - OK If you're sensuous, and there is chemistry, and that guy turns you on , and etc etc. Then why, in such a situation, would a girl say "Sex isn't everything?". We ALL know it's NOT everthing ... and that she wants MORE than just sex. But if not communicated well then it might be misinterpreted. ...I interpret this to mean that you want to bamboozal women to get them into bed, and you'll say anything as long as they end up on their backs. I don't think you meant that... but kind of sounded like that. First of all, I don't lie about these things with girls. They find out soon enough that although I'd like to find the right girl, I'm dating and playing the field. But if THIS girl is attractive to me and I feel chemistry for her, I find honest and open ways to let her her know. But without the ol' turn off cliche, "You're very attractive" - She already knows that And without the other cliche, "I'd like to get to know you" - She already knows that too Anyway, I never lie about my intentions. I hope I'm never crass or anything, but if she's yummy, she'll learn that I think she's yummy and she'll know I'd love to get into her pants, with no lies, no promises. It's wonderful to me how many girls like that open-ness and even appreciate a sexual man thinking she's so yummy. This is one of the many things I've learned recently, that I wish I had learned when I was younger. I have some very good friends, male and female who whole-heartedly agee with some of them. Like, don't lie, be honest. And If you're playing te field and are a sexual man, don't hide it. Seek out the girls that are REALLY attractive to you, so when you let her realize she's so yummy to you, she'll sense that she REALLY is and not see it as a lie. Hell, she knew she was yummy anyway Don't be afraid to say "Hello, how'd you day go today". I recently learned that when a guy walks into a place, there are probably girls in there who hope he has the courage to say hi. Why did it take me so long to learn this. All I gotta do is say hi! They like it! Anyway. I don't bamboozal anyone!. If she's really yummy, I want her OK? Is she the one I'd like to marry? I honestly HOPE so, but I don't know. And I WON'T know for a long time ... longer than I can wait for sex ... but that's another thread. Oh ... and if I ever tell her I love her and want to get serious or marry her ... She'll know for a certain that I'm telling her the truth! I honesly think there are sensuous, attractive girls, who soooo much want what I want too. They even appreciate when a guy is open and honest about it, giving them a chance to take a chance. If they'er not wanting to get hurt, not wanting to take a chance until they're CONVINCED that I want to be serious or get married, then that's completely understandable. I respect that and we don't waste each others time. No one gets bamboozaled. It's called DATING - IMO I think I finally understand what grampa meant when he said, "I wish I knew then what I know now!" All this time I thought grampa was talking about wisdom and stuff like that. But now I think he was trying to tell me something about girls ... ... without getting into trouble with gramma
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