GregsBad Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 Someone please warn me if this was exhausted before I joined. I'm single and dating for some time now. I love it. I have learned so much that I wish I knew when I was younger. One subject that really facinates me is: Why girls want to wait before "giving it up". How other guys get around it I definitely have my ways ... and I'm an eager student to understand more. Any thoughts?
MissKissNada_Gal Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 Someone please warn me if this was exhausted before I joined. I'm single and dating for some time now. I love it. I have learned so much that I wish I knew when I was younger. One subject that really facinates me is: Why girls want to wait before "giving it up". How other guys get around it I definitely have my ways ... and I'm an eager student to understand more. Any thoughts? Exactly, "giving it up." its just as bad as it sounds. we dont want to give up everything we have for a guy sometimes. its an insecurity for girls, well, not an insecurity because its the right thing. its more of a priority. not giving it up, proves to us girls to be the better thing to do than to "give it up."
Author GregsBad Posted June 1, 2007 Author Posted June 1, 2007 Exactly, "giving it up." its just as bad as it sounds. we dont want to give up everything we have for a guy sometimes. its an insecurity for girls, well, not an insecurity because its the right thing. its more of a priority. not giving it up, proves to us girls to be the better thing to do than to "give it up." Cute pun MissKiss! But I (and others here) know you're only 14 and haven't given anything up yet, except a few kisses. To YOU I say DON'T give up ANYTHING until you're older and ready for it. And you're NOT ready ... not for a few more years anyway
champagne Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 Someone please warn me if this was exhausted before I joined. I'm single and dating for some time now. I love it. I have learned so much that I wish I knew when I was younger. One subject that really facinates me is: Why girls want to wait before "giving it up". How other guys get around it I definitely have my ways ... and I'm an eager student to understand more. Any thoughts? Actually yes, this topic has been pretty much exhausted. I like to wait a few weeks because I like to get to know the man really well. I mean, I don't want to find out some weird and freaky stuff about him, AFTER slept with him. I want to be able to make an informed judgement before I sleep with a man, so to speak. I want a relationship to begin developing. Plus, if he doesn't stick around because I won't have sex within a date or two, then I don't want him. In addition, I feel STDs is a real issue these days, and I don't understand why there's a rush to go to bed when you're dating someone. Now with women who think like me, no tactic of the man is going to work to get me to bed before I feel comfortable with being intimate sexually. In fact, I will see through that immediately, probably before you even try to get me in bed. So...you basically have to find a woman who has no problem with getting into bed as soon as you do. Unless you lie and put on an act with the thought that she might give it up sooner. However, I still wouldn't give it up that soon. My thoughts would be that if he really does feel that way, he'll wait a few weeks, no rush.
DanielMadr Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 just shut up, dont be eager or horny, go on a few dates and walk her to her doors with a kiss only, try to seek some mutual understanding and she will have sex with you soon enough. After 5 dates, if you do everything right and nothing, you should look for other girl. It can be waste of time. Bare in mind....sleeping with girls you dont like that much to date them afterwards will get you in hell. And dont forget Satan is a homo
electric_sheep Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 There are all kinds of girls (and guys) out there. It sounds like you just want to play a little right now, which is perfectly fine. Whatever you do, don't lie and manipulate. Just be honest. There are plenty of girls out there who are willing to have sex sooner than latter (this is particularly true today), so there is no need to be manipulative anyhow. And if you truly are open to having a "serious" relationship, maybe you should be more open about a girls personal philosophy on sex. I'm a sexual agnostic to a certain degree, meaning I don't really think one view is better than another. Girls with somewhat traditional values, like Champagne, I find terribly cute and very alluring. Maybe I'm just old fashioned. Those kind of values tend to make sex feel more special though. And all that waiting can be terribly sexy too! True story: I didn't sleep with my current girlfriend for something like 3 months. She had some issues to deal with, and I was willing to wait. Even weirder... she would let me go down on her, but she wouldn't go down on me! I was totally okay with the seeming inequality. I really was, as I love to go down on a girl anyway. Looking back on it, I think that was a really sexy period for us. Bottom line... if you're looking for something "serious" (and it's okay if you're not!), waiting a while to have sex is really not too much of an issue (assuming you're not 17 or 18, of course, heehee). Unless of course she is REALLY traditional and wants to wait till marriage, in which case I would have had a problem. I waited 3 months, and it was certainly worth it. Sometimes those girls that want to wait turn into real animals when finally let loose. Consider that sex with another person can be a very special thing, and invariably it seems to go through various stages (as does the whole relationship). If you rush out of one stage too fast you may regret it latter. Each stage should be savored. That is how some people look at it. Of course, every now and then it's nice to just chug back a cold pint too.
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