Author Storyrider Posted June 1, 2007 Author Posted June 1, 2007 I would think a Chinese finger trap would be somewhat effective. That one works better for when they won't stop poking each other in the eyes.
pelagicsands Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 I would think a Chinese finger trap would be somewhat effective. The Chinese finger trap is a commonly-used metaphor for overcoming a problem by not trying too hard to solve it. What a great life-lesson.
Author Storyrider Posted June 1, 2007 Author Posted June 1, 2007 What a great life-lesson. And it keeps them from picking their noses, too.
pelagicsands Posted June 1, 2007 Posted June 1, 2007 I think I just need someone to get me back in line. One can't discipline until one has discipline, as another poster pointed out. Does your technique help with that? You're getting a bit personal, aren't you? All I can say is that if I'm bad, it is down to my wistful hope that you will spank me.
Author Storyrider Posted June 1, 2007 Author Posted June 1, 2007 ...All I can say is that if I'm bad If... It is down to my wistful hope that you will spank me. Who could refuse such a well-turned request? Assume the position.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 Wwhen I punish my daughter, it's usually computer time she gets grounded from. I don't have to worry when she goes to her dad's because her brother will make sure the grounding gets enforced over at their dads! I also reward them for responsible behavior, especially if it's something totally unexpected, and being such thoughtful, wonderful kids, they catch me by surprise quite often. I can really learn from them. *sniff*
Miss_Bee Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 be more direct and ask her what a good punishment would be for an eight year old when she talks back. She is still young enough to answer honestly, rather than with a "don't throw me in the briar patch," kind of response. I could never ever do this with my 8 YO SR. She'd definitley try to use the Briar patch technique with me. But it's a great idea if you figure that she won't try to pull the briar patch thing on you. When she does something she's not supposed to we would ground her to her room. Or from the computer. Plain and simple. It gives her the night to think about what she's done and she doesn't like not being able to hang out with her best friend across the street.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 For outright disobedience or talking disrespectfully we take away EVERYTHING for a day accept sometimes TV. Video games, playing outside, ect.. For fit pitching, its time out for as long as it takes to get control over his self. The newest one I got from a friend and it's torture for him! Writing sentences (legibly and in cursive). I had forgotten all about this one. This accomplishes two things: one is the punishment and two is that he is practicing handwriting (a major issue for him) during a t ime when we aren't doing much writing. I have added to that writing of multiplication and division tables. Over an issue though such as not remembering school work or forgetting a responsibility (he is very ADD) it is pointed out and I'll do everything to make him successful for a few days, then all of a sudden there is a surprise out of nowhere. According to Skinner, I believe, intermittant positive reinforcment is the most productive.
nittygritty Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 This is along the same lines as IfWishesWereHorses but have her write you a paper on whatever she did wrong. For instance "Why I shouldn't leave my backpack on the playground at school" or "Why I shouldn't talk back to my parents". The paper should include how she plans to correct her behavior. Make her write the paper in her room and think about why she is in trouble and how to solve the problem she is having. If she doesn't do a good job writing her paper or her responses are excuses as to why its not really her fault then make her write it again.
Author Storyrider Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Good suggestions, all. Now, since both kids are home with me for the summer, fighting is becoming a problem. The sentence writing is perfect. Sometimes I am amazed at the things you have to tell kids: -Don't lick the wall. -Don't wear your church shoes to the swimming pool. -Don't spend all our time at the pool stomping in a mud puddle in the grass. -Don't paint your face with water colors. Q: What is that on your shirt? A: (matter of factly) Snot.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 You are completely responsible for my medical bills, I think I just ruptured something!!!!!:lmao::lmao::lmao: I've got the snot thing going on and worse!!!! As for the fighting, we paid our oldest to keep our youngest when we went out, (we also paid the youngest a small token to be kept) and we would get repeated phone calls with one complaining about the others behavior. Then we instituted, who ever calls to complain doesn't get paid. It worked marvelously! Nittygritty, I love it, write what you did wrong and how you plan to correct it. Good suggestions, all. Now, since both kids are home with me for the summer, fighting is becoming a problem. The sentence writing is perfect. Sometimes I am amazed at the things you have to tell kids: -Don't lick the wall. -Don't wear your church shoes to the swimming pool. -Don't spend all our time at the pool stomping in a mud puddle in the grass. -Don't paint your face with water colors. Q: What is that on your shirt? A: (matter of factly) Snot.
Author Storyrider Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 Glad someone got enjoyment out of it. Maybe this is how Irma Bombeck got her start. Today I found, neatly placed on the back of the toilet, several cloves of perfectly peeled garlic.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 We went on a canoe trip recently and our 10 year old son tells his dad while swimming off of a beach that he has to potty. Dad informs him to GO in the water. He then comes up to us with this stupid look on his face and asks what he's supposed to use for TP???? DUDE.... not number 2!!!! I'ld have asked that question before hand and I'm a woman!
Author Storyrider Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 We went on a canoe trip recently and our 10 year old son tells his dad while swimming off of a beach that he has to potty. Dad informs him to GO in the water. He then comes up to us with this stupid look on his face and asks what he's supposed to use for TP???? DUDE.... not number 2!!!! I'ld have asked that question before hand and I'm a woman! Oooh. I hope this was a before question and not after. Although, I think there was a whole thread about this. Pooing in the water.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 After, to which dad replies, YOU ONLY DO THAT DOWNSTREAM!
nittygritty Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 We went on a canoe trip recently and our 10 year old son tells his dad while swimming off of a beach that he has to potty. Dad informs him to GO in the water. He then comes up to us with this stupid look on his face and asks what he's supposed to use for TP???? DUDE.... not number 2!!!! I'ld have asked that question before hand and I'm a woman! That is funny! :lmao: I have a 10 year old son too. One evening last fall I noticed a hole in the seat of his jeans and then I realized that I could see skin through the hole. I said son "Why don't you have any underwear on?" and he tells me that his jeans stain his underwear so he quit wearing them. Of course, the mysterious stains turned out to be skidmarks and No, I didn't make him write a paper, I just told him he needed to do a better job wiping.
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