JoL Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 I have posted some things on the family forum about my crazy controlling family. But this time the issue I guess is my relationship which has ended with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years. Throughout the relationship he always did/said things like -"don't worry about me, you worry about what you're going to to do with the next guy you date" -Told his parents and friends numerous times that they were probably never going to see me again because we were going to break up. -Told me he wished I would just end it because he can't do it. -Told me he wanted an "Easy" life and our relationship was just too hard for him. -Given me so many ultimatums over stupid things and then taken them back. -Tells me to move overseas or interstate, but that obviously we would have to break up. -He is just NOT someone who fights for what he wants. His famous line is "what can i do". He just LETS things happen to him. I ALWAYS felt attacked from my family about him, but he NEVER reassured me with our relationship, he never said we will get through this and that it was worth it. He always made it seem like it was just too much hard work. I understand that it would be tough for him, but He never understood the hell I had to go through justifying myself to my parents and standing up for him. I never wanted him to confront my family at all, I just wanted his support behind me to feel empowered and that I was doing the right thing by fighting them for him. Due to all these things and more, I just can't do it anymore. I can't fight with my family over someone who isn't 100% there for me. We have slowly reached this conclusion over the last few days. I rang him yesterday and told him all of this and that THIS is why it is over now for good. When I told him about the hurtful things like telling his family/friends it was probably over, telling me to worry about the next guy etc, he said "I said all those things for you" .....which I guess he means like to knock some sense into me??? I just find it emotionally manipulative. I told him that all he did by doing that is made me realise he just doesn't want this bad enough. Sorry, just needed to vent to put this into perspective.
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